- PA, USA
- member since April 12, 2007
sumshay’s last login was Wednesday, January 13, 2010.
Oh! Now I feel so bad! But....I can redeem myself. The teenage years can be trying, but it does not necessarily mean that you will completely lose your relationship. While I have had my moments with my girls (you are right it is some kind of mother daughter struggle) they still talk to me, we still sit up at night and giglgle, we still have loads of fun. I think some of it depends on their unique individualism (if that is a word). For instance, my oldest daughter is much more open about her emotions naturally. I think it is easier for her talk than the younger. The younger one is much more stoic in nature. Therefore, I have to be more creative in communicating with her. I also think it is important for them to feel safe talking about the teenage stuff. We have always tried (not always successfully) to be very consistent, set parameters, but always be willing to listen to ANYTHING. Sometimes THAT gets interesting because the oldest one would pick the darndest times and places to want to discuss things (that is a long story :) ). On the other hand, that age groups brings its owns joys and depth to your relationship. It is amazing to see your children developing into the adult they will once become. They are able to have a deeper and more complex (semi-adult) relationship with you. There are so many things about our relationship that I now treasure so deeply. Sorry to go on, but I remember having those same fears and just wanted to share what I have learned in case it helps any.
My girls are 20 and 16. My 20 year old is away at college, about 2 hours from home. She is pursuing a nursing degree. My younger one is a junior in high school. So, we are fast approaching the empty nest stage. This is a bit scary. I have always been so wrapped in their activities that I wonder what I will do when that is no longer a part of my life. I was both of their girl scout troops' leaders, PTA, field trip go to mom, etc....In fact, I just want on a three day field trip with my 16 year old's theatre class. We had such a great time. It will be odd not to have that part of my life anymore.
I am hoping to visit PA again. I would like to come when trees and flowers are in bloom. It was rather bleak when we were there. We timed it right. Big snow storm the day before we came. The next big storm the day after we left. We were there for one week. It seemed like it would just be beautiful when nature when alive. There is such tremendous history there. Have you ever been to Texas?
Where was your picture taken? It is such a beautiful picture.
I hate to rain on the parade, but when the kids get older there are other things that come up to distract you (or at least that is what happened to me:) )
How old are your girls? We have two girls as well. Girls can be so much fun.
We went to PA during SPring Break last year. Flew into Philadelphia. Stayed there a couple of nights. THen slowly made our way towards Getteysburg. Had a great time!
Hi Sumshay, and welcome to Moms Who Read...we're so glad to have you with us! I hope you'll drop in to talk about your favorite books or even about your life as a mom. Don't hesitate to introduce yourself and/or look over the threads to see if any discussions interest you...I look forward to chatting with you!
Please check our Moms Who Read... Shelfari group page for information on upcoming book discussions, book nominations, and/or voting.
Celebrate Adoption group:
Our first group read is Elinor Lipman's Then She Found Me.
Let's plan on reading through August, then starting discussion in September. That'll give everyone plenty of time to get their hands on the book and read it before we start chatting.
Thanks for all the interest!
RE: Celbrate Adoption Group Read:
I'm afraid I mixed up the authors of the following books in the previous post- this is the corrected list:
Then She Found Me is by Elinor Lipman and
If You Could See Me Now is by Michael Mewshaw
The Mistress's Daughter by A.M. Homes
Sorry for the mix-up! I hope this didn't mess up the books you've chosen.....