- Mumbai, MH, India
- member since March 17, 2009
Sheetal S’s last login was Saturday, October 2, 2010.
Let me begin by saying that I've been a total jerk for not replying all these days. Big fat ugly jerk. Is that a nod ? You're nodding ? So, you agree that I HAVE been a jerk, eh ? I don't blame you. I really have. Please have mercy on me and let this felony go ... please ?
How have you been ? ... and your families ? How's your job ? In fact, which job are you at right now ? How's the ornament design coming along ? How about Chanel ?
I've been riding life's surf and getting thrashed by the waves every now and then. It's always like this in the sea. I need a break now and that's exactly what I'm going to do - going home for a week on 10th.
So, your Hong Kong trip was an eye-opener, huh ? Even I feel that we need to get our act together. Our resilience is probably embedded in our genetic structure by now. Our unwavering ability to live on with humans and animals rotting away on streets, with terrible standards of sanitation and awful traffic is only matched by Pakistan's tenacious denials of involvement in cross-border militancy.
Congratulations on your encounter with alcohol ... albeit the classiest kind, of course. Did you like it ?
I don't want to read your finished poem. I absolutely do not want to read it. Even if you post back with a link to it. Or say, mailed it to me. Not even ... Who'm I kidding ... I wanna read it !!!
Once again SS, really sorry about the hiatus ... won't happen again.
Keep in touch,
Hello SS !
I'm doing okay ... work's going fine too ... been a little extra-busy for a while but that's passed now.
"Mortgage approval" ... sounds interesting. Well, you better do your job carefully or else India will be in the throes of the exact same affliction that's brought USA down on it's knees.
I don't see why you'll be moving in with your parents because your hubby's getting a new job. Will he be posted in a different place ? Anyway, you'll get to spend more time with your family now ... and that's pretty cool.
My money, honey, moxha thingy is at this moment less real than the least real pot dream that anyone might have had ... money - not much ... honey - not yet ... moxha - not at all. Let's see how it works out.
I guess you're cohabitation treaty would have lapsed by now, hasn't it ? "Bahu ke haath ka khana" must be hard on you after a hard day's work ... but if you cook as well as you write, I don't see why they shouldn't ask for it every now and then.
Post back when you have the time ...
"Ghar ka khana" .... *sigh* ... to say that i miss it would be an understatement .... ever since leaving kolkata, eating has been an extremely dissatisfactory experience ... which is not say that i hate the local fare, but nothing comes close to mom's recipes.
“don’t wash your hair on Sunday if you have a younger brother.” - wow !!! that's way too weird !!! ... for this millennium at least. seriously, if you have had to put up with that kind of nonsense, then i have to appreciate your disgust with north indian superstitions. in my experience with educated people from any part of the world, i've never faced anything of that extreme level.
Hmmm, the company you've left seems to have been a stinker in more ways than one - and I think you were right in choosing to leave it. Now that you've quit this one, what's up next ? Back to full blown design ? ... or perhaps a media-monitoring company with better hygiene and ethics ?
Now that you explain what the poem stands for, the macabre twilight feel to it actually makes even more sense to me. See - I told you I'm no good at deciphering rhetoric all by myself ! The review was a hundred per cent honest ... but obviously very infantile too. Let me guess who listens to all your poems - your canine companion, right ?
Keep up the great penmanship. Bye !
Hi Sheetal !
Really sorry about replying after such a long while ... didn't really get time to compose and post a proper reply until now.
If you asked me, I would say that orthodoxy and traditionalism are present in very heavy doses in both north and south India. I haven't observed enough people from different states for long enough from either side of the Vindhyas to come to a conclusion about it, but that's the way I see it. Kerala, I have heard, is quite liberal in several ways - and it's literacy is superior to all other states, but there is more to the south than Kerala. Female infanticide is rampant in Tamil Nadu as well as Rajasthan ... untouchability exists in Andhra as well as UP ... communal riots have rocked Karnataka as well as Gujarat on numerous occasions. West Bengal has it's share of dirty laundry too ... whether one classifies it under north or not is hardly of importance.
It's nice to know that you find your job interesting ... you're not quitting jewelery design altogether, are you ?
I understand what your take on the parents question is, but I have to think really hard about it. I guess looking for a perfect solution is pointless, because there probably isn't one. Settling for something which allows everybody breathing space as well as mutual reliance is the target here. Let's see ...
Your gyan does not go wasted on me. I totally follow what you say. However, when I say fame, I don't mean the kind of fame which comes with money - I mean the kind of fame which brings you money ... celebrity style ! Think about it. All these superstars in sports, music, films - what is it exactly that we like them for ? Why is David Beckham so damn rich ? Jerry Seinfeld ? Madonna ? How is it that they serve us ? Entertainment is the keyword here. Which school course teaches you how to be a celebrity ? None. In order to strike big gold young, you cannot rely on the standard climb-up-the-professional-ladder technique. Of course, I'm not trying to say it's easy ... but no matter how hard it is, it's worth the try. [--In case you're my boss and you're reading this - I was high when I wrote this and don't mean a word of it--]
Now for the poem.
I liked it. I won't call it lovely, and I doubt that it was meant to be. It has a dark, sombre feel to it ... a feeling of being lonely and unloved ... except for the last line which redeems a little hope ... I don't understand metaphors too well though, so you'll have to tell me what you were actually referring to. I did like the fact that it rhymes - modern poems rarely do ! From what I can foresee, "Meandering Thoughts" won't be too bad a book :) .
Lovely to hear from you, I am sorry it has taken me so long to reply, I am on night duty at the moment and my brain ceases to function normally when my sleep pattern is so upside down! Only 4 night shifts left now though so normality should resume soon!
Ah 3G - I was a customer for a while!
Mumbai and India fascinate me, I read a lot about that part of the world and my ex-husband's family travelled there a lot. His Grandparents actually met and married over there, they met on Juhu beach (sorry if that is the wrong spelling).
I can only say I feel lucky to work as a nurse. For so many years I worked doing jobs that gave me no satisfaction until finally I found my calling, and now I feel truly blessed to be able to enjoy my work and feel I have been able to contribute to others.
There is more than one way to be useful to humans, and the world, and the medical route is only one way - I'm sure you will find your area of contribution if you haven't already.
I love German Sheperds. I had three dogs, among other pets, as I grew up, and loved them dearly. They were Lerchers - do you have that cross breed in your part of the world? The Guinea Pigs are wonderful creatures, very simple and happy. They are a great pleasure to watch and really very loving in their own little way. Plus they help to keep the grass trim! My biggest comfort though is my cats, who are such wonderful creatures.
Perhaps you could give me some recipes! I bet you know how to cook some far more exciting things than I do. My repetoire is almost entirely traditional English food, although of course these days English food is largely made up of Italian, French and even Indian recipes! My family is Polish originally so I am trying to learn a few more Eastern European recipes too. I hope to travel there soon.
I am just about to plant a veggie plot in my garden! I have started my own composting and also have strawberries, blackberries and redcurrents, as well as a couple of miniature apple trees and a plum tree. It takes a few years for the fruit trees to establish, so I am hoping this year will be their first fruit crop. I really should be sleeping today, but it is such beautiful weather I can't resist pottering in the garden for a little while.
I'd better go for now, do keep in touch.
It's been a while since I last posted a note ... I was in Palakkad with no internet connxn, you see ...
So you're on your familial pleasure cruise already, huh ? Cool. Even I wish people would take life easy without weird beliefs and complex rituals, but I don't think all North Indians are ritual-crazy ... and come to think of it, is it really any better in South India ?
How do you like your new job ? I really don't know much about media monitoring ... what's the deal ?
I don't really have a "crisis" crisis in my life ... it's just that I feel like I lack the will to make things happen. I mean, I spend so much time daydreaming and lazing with music playing on my pc, that none of the dreams ever materialize into anything real. It's silly to talk about it.
I've seen some awesome films recently. Bertolucci's "The Dreamers" was good, Ray's "Shatranj ke Khiladi" and "Kanchenjungha" were good too, "Cruel Intentions" was entertaining but nothing special and I've seen some short films which were pretty cool too. Check out the HIV/AIDS trilogy on youtube : "Prarambha", "Blood Brothers" and "Positive".
Staying away from home happened without too many options to choose from, but I surely don't mind it. Sometimes, I think what I'll have to do in a few years ... my parents aren't getting any younger and Kolkata isn't getting any better as a professional destination ... bringing my parents over to Bangalore seems to be a feasible solution ... but ... will I really be thrilled to have my parents around me all the time ? ... does it make me a bad son to ask that question ? ... do I really care what the answer to that is ? ... how would I want it to be when I'll be 60+ myself ? ... and then there are questions which have no business but to bother me when I'm having a perfectly good time ... what's it that I really want out of life ? ... money ? fame ? love ? moksha ? Will I ever get any of those the way I'm going now ? ... do I think too much ?
You've had a very filmy life, Sheetal. Trying to run away from home ... coming back because of fate ... in-law issues ... the whole shebang for a Bollywood potboiler.
I have a bus to board in five minutes ... so gotta run now.
ps : Loved the saying about dogs you threw in ... seems like Schopenhauer said it.
Hi SS !
My work involves a bit of software, a bit of hardware, a bit of physics, a bit of maths and a whole lot of powerpoint presentations ! Actually, we're not supposed to discuss our work outside office ... nothing personal, just company policy !!! Whatever little I've told you about my work is true though.
I do work on a campus. It's GE's biggest campus in India, the John F Welch Technology Center. It's a really nice place ... very green, very organized and very beautiful too !!!
Quarter life crisis is a great way to describe it ... I'm going through it too ... I just wasn't aware of the term ! Now that I know so many other people experience it (... I wikied it ...), perhaps I'll stop
I didn't vote either. It was partly because my name isn't on the voters' list here yet, and also because of very similar reasons to yours. It's a classic case of Morton's fork ! How can these despicable people with their self-serving agendas deserve to be proper citizens, let alone leaders ?
On some level, I find the concept of representative democracy to be very imperfect at it's core. Even if a state were blessed with well-meaning, honest politicians, a system of determining it's rulers based on public opinion will not necessarily serve the overall welfare of the state. Any government which takes a decision to sacrifice short term benefits for the sake of achieving long term goals for it's subjects will be dismissed, and any govt which does the opposite, with or without malice, will be egged on. This is because, the majority of people do not have an understanding of state policy and governance deep enough, to be able to judge a government's worth based on it's future plans. As for example, a govt which trades off defense and security budget against rural development will win the votes and hearts of far more villagers than the number of votes they will lose. In a nutshell, my question is this. "Is the common person a good judge of who knows best for him ?" Until the day we can come up with a better solution though, we'll have to manage with this one.
I've tried my hand at writing but it hasn't worked out so far ... let's see if i can manage to churn out something one of these days ...
So Chanel's Sheen now !!?? What next ? Shania ? Shaniqua ?? Champs-Élysées ??? I guess, that which you call Chanel
, by any other name would smell as sweet ;)
50k for a software sounds intimidating ... are you sure no free, open-source alternatives exist ?
Keep in touch.
"Overworked eh? That’s a universal feeling after coming back from a holiday...!!!"
Nahin re ... I've been working holidays, weekends, late nights and what not for the last twelve days or so. 9 to 5 is a luxury compared to that.
Even I hate staying cooped up in a/c places ... it's just that I don't have too much of a choice right now. However, I do take work breaks every now and then ... go for walks around the campus ... chit-chat with colleagues about non-work stuff ... and have coffee on the balcony to breathe fresh air for a change.
I guess a move to a place with better business prospects might be a good idea then. You could also make your designs right at home and use the web to send them over to your jewelers in Calicut ...
I agree with you about the fund misappropriation. Abuse of power dates back to days of royalty, and to see it happening in a democracy is heartbreaking. I don't know about you, but I feel that the Indian's vote is a non-vote. The reason I feel so, is that while you do get to choose between candidates a, b and c, your choice only determines the sucker you'd like to be sucked dry by ... the choice of a genuine leadership with moral fiber worthy of ruling is just not there !!! With one of the three leading political fronts in this general election, I'm afraid they wouldn't live up to their promises if elected ... with another front, I'm afraid they'll do exactly what they're promising ( ... their promises are scary ... ) and the remaining one is a busload of "gimme more"s which has too many aspiring commanders-in-chief and too few corporals !!! Oh deliverance ... where art thou ?
Sounds like your poetry is your very personal outlet for pain and sorrow ... in that case, I wouldn't ask to read it ... I just thought it would be about dogs and love and nature and all that kind of stuff.
I will take care ... once I get the time to, that is ...
"Meandering Thoughts" sounds cool. Just make sure that it's a hardcover ... paperbacks full of sayings seem rather cliched. You mentioned that you write poetry ... any thoughts on publishing those yet ?
I am looking forward to my southern endeavor ... it'll be some time next month.
Hi there !
I'm fine ... very overworked ... but fine otherwise ...
The weather here is fantastic as usual. It's started to rain every now and then, and that keeps the temperature somewhere around the 26 degrees mark during most of the day ... I don't get to enjoy it though ... I'm confined to my air-conditioned office for most of my waking hours :(
I don't know about the differences in the jewelery markets in India, but wouldn't you rather design more subtle stuff than relatively garish ornaments ? Of course, in any business, the customer rules ... but moving to Calicut might just force you to put your creativity and your aesthetics on hold ...
I don't expect political parties to do anything for animals either. However, I do expect a sitting government to do everything that their duties ask them to do ... including upholding the laws which protect animals rights. Having said that, I must admit that the fallacy in my expectations is clear enough to me. The Swiss bank logic trumps all that's just and good.
What I'm more worried about than the reluctance of politicians to do justice to animals, is the fact that this reluctance is a damp non-issue !!! Civic amenities, roads, healthcare, education etc. are neglected by politicians and they are criticized for doing so ... whereas animal welfare is not even on the table to consider !!! Yet another issue that Indian politicians do not address is that of queer rights. I admit that it is not something that the Indian masses accept as normal yet ... but when was the last time that we saw an aspiring leader speak up for those who need to be spoken for the most, yet do not add up to a significant vote bank ? ( ... I'm sorry if my sentences make no sense ... I'm feeling really tired as I write this ...)
Hi Sheetal !
Now that I'm back in Bangalore, the weather pangs are over. Kolkata is suffering it's worst summer in years ...
I will be visiting Palakkad on business. THe trip was initially scheduled for the coming week but it had to be postponed. So your trip is a bit of a holiday too, eh ? Not bad !
Six months will go by in the blink of an eye. Of course, the more you wish it were over, the longer it will seem to drag on ... step up the camomile and make it through the typhoons !!! Who knows, perhaps at the end of the six months, things would have improved a little and the people who mistreated you will come to realize what kind of a person you really are !!!
Zoos are prisons in any case. Circuses are traveling prisons. Some of the sanctuaries and reserves in the country are good, but several of them suffer from problems of poaching and man/animal conflicts. I think the way in which we are accustomed to thinking of animals is too apathetic. Somehow, animal rights still is a fringe issue and very few political parties are interested in bringing about any change in this regard. The common logic that people come up with when asked about their indifference to the issue is "In India, Insaan has so many problems ... who's got time to think about jaanwar ?" That only reinforces the idea, that there is a hierarchy to the injustices prevalent in society and one must solve them top down. Such an approach can never work. Unless we realize that the real problem lies within us ... in our reluctance to treat another's agony or sufferance as our own and react accordingly ... we can never expect a better world.
Yup, the dil-dimaag combination is very important ... but given the chance to go back and do it all over again, would you rather not make the decision that you've made ?
That's about it from me ... have fun and good luck with your business deals.
The more I learn of your wedding saga, the more I am in awe of your guts and determination in going through with the thing. Now, for you to actually move in with your "out-laws" (... love the pun ... 8D), would be yet another bold step. In a year's time you should look back at all that's happened and make a book out of it. Seriously !!!
Cruelty to animals pisses me off a lot. I know what you mean when you say that limelight hoggers don't give a damn about dead kitties. However, the social butterflies aren't the only people who drive industries which practice cruelty to animals. Zoos all over India are in pathetic condition, beasts of burden are brutalized every day, caged birds in houses suffer imprisonment without fault and ritual sacrifices are practiced fervently in temples and mosques alike. The whole situation is so screwed up that trying to make any difference seems too daunting a task to undertake. I must say I admire your brother for his kindness, not too many people take the time out to help out others in need - human or otherwise.
So Chanel's quite the touchy queen, eh ? Are you sure she's a dog ? "Raw carrots, capsicum, cucumber & coriander leaves" sounds more like a rabbit's diet than a dog's !! ... to each her own, I guess ...
Whoa girl !!! That's a lot of compliments !!! I'm not trying to woo Bips ( ... and being a Basu myself, that would be a bit weird), but if you say that I have what it takes to bowl chicks over, that gives me lot of confidence to go ahead !!! If you're romantic, emotional and temperamental then your advice won't be needed at all. That's because I'm r,e and t myself !!! Even then however, I'll count on you to chip in with your considerable experience and courage.
You're right about the pic. I'll put one up. It's not exactly vanity that has kept me from uploading my pic all these days. It's just that I hate my pics ... big time appearance dissatisfaction here.
... and the lines you dread crossing don't exist ... so feel free to trespass.
I've heard so much about Kerala, and I'm dying to check it out myself. I hope it rains enough to beat the heat there at this time of the year. Will you be visiting relatives there ?
Keep smiling !