Angelia ~ I was born by the river, in a little tent. And just like the river I’ve been running ever since ~
- Kanpur, UP, India
- member since July 17, 2011
Hieeee....!!! So glad to see your note...!!!
Am doing gr8...hope your doing well as well :) Hwz your new school....tell me all about it....!!!
Sorry cudnt keep in touch in between....been quite unwell....But am ok now....!!!
Hope to hear from you soon....& yes missed you so so much as well....!!!
Hi Angelia!! So wonderful to hear from you! :)
Yes, I'm still on Shelfari. It is a long story, one I must share in e-mail
form. Thank you so much for your concern.
I understand about the long period. No need to apologize my friend. :)
I must complete my home chores now and help my mother in the kitchen, but I will be on later and will reply to your e-mail as well.
Talk to you soon Angelia. Again, so wonderful to hear from you! :)
Hi my friend. Just wanted you to know I was thinking of you and praying for you.
I haven't forgotten your note. I will write back again soon.
Things are not too well with me right now so that's why it's taking so long.
Thank you for your patience. :)
Please enjoy your day and find joy whereever you can. I've been searching for it over and over but cannot find it. Perhaps you will succeed where I have failed...?
How are you doing? Just thought I would say hello, and send you some of my new websites.
have a fab week.
Thanks Angelia! Your timing was perfect! I received your birthday wishes on my birthday; that makes it special. :)
I'm not really doing much today. I have the day off from work but because I usually work, I don't know what to do with myself when I'm off! Just trying to enjoy my day the best that I can and Thank God for letting me see 29 years of life. :)
Hahaha.... yeah, I blame that on the stress. I used to have a full head of head back when I was a teen. I look more like 39 than 29 don't I? Guess it all comes with age!
Awww, that's so nice of you to say! Thank you! If I can help at least one person feel joy, wanted or loved, then I know that my life isn't for nothing, no matter what anyone else says to me or tries to make me feel. This is so encouraging Angelia! I appreciate it very much. :) So happy that I am able to make a difference in someone's life.
Okay, great! Looking forward to your message and your picture! Just whenever you have time! Thanks Angelia and thanks, thanks, thanks for the birthday wishes! :)
Hi Angelia!! How are you?
Sure, no problem. I always make time for my friends. My replies are a little delayed sometimes but I make it my priority to reply back as soon as I can. I have another friend on here that I will reply to in full as well. :)
That’s okay Angelia. It was a long time ago (probably before you were even born), another life, and while the experience is not forgotten, I’ve since moved on and made my peace, both with myself and with my ‘friend’ (not directly but in my heart). Basically you could say that it helped prepare me for many let downs and disappointments. That’s what life is. It’s not stagnant. It’s always moving forward, always changing just as we are always changing. I was thinking this the other day. To better relate to your situation involving your friend, I will share this. A few years ago when I was still in college, I met this girl who was very nice and kind. We were in the same graphic design class together. And to make a long story short, the first few years (probably 2 years) we were really good friends. We helped each other out in class, sharing class notes and such, sat next to one another in class and even occasionally having lunch together. We even shared a friendly e-mail exchange and shared about things just as we are doing now. But then one day I stopped hearing from her. I don’t know what happened. Just like that, she never wrote me back. I rarely saw her on the college campus anymore and when I did see her, it almost seemed like she didn’t know me. It was like her personality did a total 180. What really hurt me was that at the time when we were still friends, she had told me that she had started going to church and began reading the Bible and stuff. But after we “split up” I sort of saw disturbing things on a few social media sites she posted that didn’t sound like her at all and hinted at becoming an atheist. Even on here I saw such things as she is on Shelfari. That’s what truly broke my heart; turning her back, not just on me but on God. From what I can see, she seems to be doing quite well. She’s got this small business going for herself. I occasionally Google her name to see if she’s made any improvements or has moved up in her organization. She looks happy enough. But like you and your friend, for some unknown reason, my friend has changed and to this day it bothers me. Nothing I can do but just pray for her when I can and hope that she sees the light and turns to face toward God again. Anyway, that’s my sob short story of one of my more recent hurtful relationships. I have many more to share but I won’t bore you with those. And I shared this to make this point. We as a people are all different and unique. We are dynamic and are always changing. And these things in mind, we can’t pinpoint exactly where someone is all the time, no matter how well we may think we know them. One day our friends can be just as friendly and loving but the next they may not even want to deal with us. I’m not saying this about your friend Angelia, I’m just saying as an example. A lot of times the reactions we get from our friends and others have nothing to do with us, but with them. We just happen to be in a spot when they decide to take out whatever feelings they’re having on us at that moment. We as people are so complex, with so much on our minds in this stress filled world, it’s just hard to say for sure why some people do what they do. Just like my childhood friend who chose not to be friends anymore, like my college friend who chose not to write me again, like your friend who is treating you the way she is, and so many others, we can’t explain for sure what goes on inside. Only God knows and sometimes all we can do is be that person that stands in for them; to be that small voice that helps them, even if they don’t even know it. We can be there for them even if they choose not to be there for us. I hope this helped a little. And it is my hope that you and your friend can come back together again.
Based on what you told me, it does sound like she is jealous. She seems so distracted by looking on at the things you have accomplished that she probably fails to see what potential she has in her own abilities. And you are correct. It is her problem. Bhavana chose to be jealous. She is responsible for her own feelings. You are not. 90% of the issues that I have with people is that they have done something and expect me follow their expectations of me and when I do not, they get upset with me. But my thing is, I am not responsible for their feelings and what they feel. The only feelings I am responsible for are my own just like you are only responsible for your feelings and not Bhavana’s. I would not worry. She may come around at one point and see her error but even if she doesn’t, remember that it is not your fault. It never was…
Thanks! Yes, it was quite a struggle for us Americans based on what I read and studied about the Revolution. And at that time, if you were an African American/Black person, like me, you had it really tough. Slavery was a big thing for those times and a black person was not treated the same as a Caucasian, not even in the military. There were very rough times, not just for African Americans, but for women, who had little to no rights, as well as other ethnic minorities. We’ve come quite a long ways since then but even today, we are not 100% there.
Hats off to you guys too for winning your independence as well! No matter how big or small, it is a great thing to win your independence and freedom! Keep me informed of some of the things you learn. I know some things but not all. We can learn from each other! :)
You’re right! It was very exhilarating! I was so excited when I got Tia’s letter in the mail, I couldn’t wait to open it! To think that it traveled 1000s of miles to reach my house and to be held by me, an actual letter hand written by my friend just days before, you can be sure that I was full of joy and excitement when I opened and read her letter. She also sent along a friendship bracelet as well as another very beautiful band that I wear often. I LOVED all of it! I probably read her letter at least 100 times since I received it. :) I treasure like it was gold or diamonds, keeping it with probably my most prized possession, my Chess set. The Chess board is really a wooden case that hold all the Chess pieces when not in use. I plan to get a really nice chest to hold that as well as future letters I get in that chest and it will truly be my special treasure. But for now, I keep it inside my Chess board. And yes, I am learning quite a bit. Your culture is wonderful! :) And yes, her writing is very good! I replied to her letter and told her the same. :) It was wonderful writing to her!
No problem Angelia. That’s what friends are for! Thank you for treating me as a friend by sharing. I feel so special! :)
You should make it a special day for yourself. It celebrates your day of birth! And just so you know, I do the same thing at times. I often feel like I am thrown into a world of craziness and trouble and I often grumble to myself (and occasionally to God) that I just want a normal life without all the issues and troubles I am facing. Of course, the reality of it is that life like this is not really normal. Here on Earth, facing trials and trouble is a part of life. To not have any trouble I would be in Heaven. I know that as a reality but sometimes I wish I could go through life without the negative stuff I deal with often. This is sort of a secret that I am sharing with you. ;) But whatever you decide to do for your birthday, I pray that it will be something special and will bring you much joy and happiness to remember always. I can tell you right now actually; I have no special plans. I get the day off from work as they give us our birthdays off at the library, but as far as I know, nothing special happening. My friends that I work with may decide to take me out to dinner but we’ll see. I will let you know when I find out!
And as you already know, I did get your private message and sent you a reply along with a picture of me so you can match a face with the one who writes to you. :) It’s not the greatest as like I said once before, I’m no superstar with my round face, big forehead and glasses size to match, but I’m still me. Hope you like it. :) Looking forward to seeing your picture as well!
And again I must say what a wonderful name Riddhi! Thanks for sharing!
God bless, and you have a good day also!
Hi Angelia! Yes, it has been a long time since our last chat. How have you been? I thought of you often and have remembered you in my prayers, hoping all is well and good.
Ah, I see. Yeah, I haven’t been on too much lately either. I haven’t been feeling well + with work and my job, it leaves me little time to do extra things like sign in. I do try to keep my reading status updated, but even now I don’t do that as much now sadly. I just don’t have the time as much as I used to.
Great! Was it a good series? I should try and read it sometime. I’ve heard quite a few positive things about it. Ah, sounds like a good book. I’ve actually been wanting to read that. We have it in our library. I just see the book on the shelf and it doesn’t get checked out hardly. Maybe I will check it out and read it. :)
Really? Great! Excellent way to learn about our country and how it started. I know a little about it myself. I got a couple of books that I want to read to learn more as there is so much to learn about the American Revolution and how the United States fought for their independence from Britain. Very interesting stuff indeed. Let me know if you need help with anything concerning that. I’d be more than happy to answer any questions you may have. :)
Ah, a troubling friendship…. I have been there Angelia; believe me; more times than I care to remember. I had something similar happen to me when I was probably younger than you. I was probably about 8 years when it happened. There was this guy I met and we became really good friends. We always talked, ate lunch together, hung out like typical boys do. Then one day, he comes up to me and says that we’re not friends anymore. I do not know what exactly precipitated this sort of behavior but as I remember, it may have had something to do with gym class (yet another reason for me to hate gym!). We were on the same team playing some game and I don’t even remember what it was, it was so long ago. Anyway, I was never very coordinated or anything and I messed up a lot when it came to games and sports. And I guess I didn’t do something right and he (Tony was his name) got mad at me and I remember his exact words to this day: “Man Mike, what are you doing?!” and then he shouted some words at me and said that we weren’t friends anymore. Whenever I would see him in the hallway, he would either go the other way or not acknowledge me at all and just keep walking. And I went back to sitting by myself at lunch like before I met him and long after I met him. I felt that he was my only friend during my early school years (if you can even call him that). So it’s because of that why I struggle with friendships sometimes and do not always call everyone my friend because I still carry that same fear that I will be hurt again like that. And to no avail, I still get hurt. Someone right now who is quite dear to me hates me. And a few other people just plain walked out of my life and I never saw them again even though we’d said we’d be friends forever. I guess for them, “forever” had a time limit of about 6 months. Whatever….. But anyway, I’m sorry to hear that you are having friend trouble Angelia. Perhaps try and talk to her and tell her how you feel? If she can understand that you are hurt by her treating you the way she has been, maybe she will have a change of heart? I don’t know if that helps but I take this as an opportunity to help someone (you) I care about not make the same mistakes I did and am paying penance for them right now. So I hope this helps!
Yeah, that’s right! The Three Amigos (yours, Tia’s and mine) all happening in October! I dubbed October ‘Birthday Month’ because I know more people whose birthday is in October more than any other month of the year. Yours is on the 20th, Tia’s is on the 18th and mine is on the 12th. We should all think of something special to do on our birthdays.
Tia and I have been exchanging actual letters we’ve been writing to each other recently. She is my very first pen pal that I actually physically wrote to! It was very exciting receiving a letter from her and writing one to send to her. She seems to be doing well. I keep you both in my prayers daily. :)
Have a wonderful day! Talk to you soon.