- member since May 16, 2009
Sandy A’s last login was Saturday, June 27, 2009.
I love Lynne Truss' books! Definitely would recommend them. She is hilarious but also very prim and proper in her tone. And it was great to see that other people feel strongly about grammar...made me feel less alone, since I sometimes wonder if I care TOO much about it. I think Lynne Truss would be a fun person to meet.
Sandy: I am so sorry that I have not been in touch lately. My mother colapsed in Florida and was hospitalized for 13 days and I am down here taking care of her. I have been out of touch because all of my time is spent with her. She is very weak and needs constant attention. She is sleeping now so I have a break but wanted to let you know that when I get back we will get the group going. Now may no be a good tme also due to people being on vacation. I know it is a good book and we could have some great discussions so again will start when I get back. I sometimes just want to go back to my childhood and take a book like Laura Wilders and just think how nice it would be to live in those SIMPLE times then I realize that without the medical care my mother would not be here and I absolutely would hate the outhouse. So hand in. I wll try and stay better in touch if not I will be home in two weeks. Thanks again for staying in touch with me.
Hi Sandy: Thanks for linking here. Yes the book reads like brilliant cliff notes to the weirdest relationship on the planet, that of the Borderline Personality Disorder Mother! I will send you an e-mail with a few insights & details. The book costs about double that of most paperbacks, yet it is definitely worth it. It really clarifies many realities children of the Borderline Mother have often never had a witness for. It explains the mechanics of the ongoing unpredictable patterns, and details advice on what agitates the whole connection and what neutralizes it, as much as can be, without a forced institutionalization, which, as in the sited case of Mary Todd Lincoln, is not always the ideal plan either.
I would love to join and talk in the group. I bought the book because I am a counselor at our local high school and have several foster students that have trouble with this. I read it to help them and would love to get more ideas on how to work with these students. Glad that we are friends and look forward to many discussions.
I'd suggest also reading "The Gift" by Gavin de Becker (and Protecting the Gift, same author). The Gift is Fear and recognizing when your unconscious mind is giving you signals about people and situations. If you have kids, give the book to your kids, as well. Learn about reading body language, too, if you can. Good luck, and happy reading!