“After reading Eckart Tolle's The Power of Now, I came across this book which takes Tolle's philosophy and applies it to relationships. There is a lot of good in this book, although it is shorter than I might wish. I wanted to see MORE, more in depth looks at the value of relationships in cultivating a spiritual life, more than what Tolle has already said in his book. What IS in the book are some useful tools and exercises and places to start on the path to greater self awareness. Some of these tools are familiar (use "I" statements instead of accusatory "you" statements, etc), some are new. I did have a couple moments of "Oh wow, I do that and I really shouldn't" and "Oh I need to do this more often", and I can see myself using some of these tools to stay present and not get worked up during an argument.
The suggestions and exercises of couples dialogue have very important aims, but I can't really see myself using them in as scripted forms as the author suggests. (It sounds... well, scripted.) But for couples having a hard time of figuring out where to start or what needs to be said, it could be helpful.
There are some people I know who I WISH would read this book because I think they would better understand their failed relationships and why they fail. I am lucky to be in a fantastic relationship and many things in this book we do already. But I am a firm believer in constantly cultivating your relationship and not taking it for granted. Better to improve a great relationship than to try and keep a failing one from sinking. Regardless, I think everyone would get something valuable from this book.”
Morganacat wrote this review Tuesday, November 27, 2012.