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That Burning Sensation June 2012

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Qotd Thread! Friday's question: Why would you say (if you would say, that is) that delusion and faith could be proverbially considered two sides of the same coin?

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CC

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No idea...

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Raine

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It's too early for me to think this hard.....I'll come back tonight with an answer!

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- Belles
  
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  Yeah, this is a hard one to start the month with.
  
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koren56

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I dont think I even understand it.

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Eric P

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In many ways faith is a delusion. It is all about believing in something that no one sees, but we are told to believe in it thus in a sense it is a delusion, but the fact also is that life would pretty much suck if we couldn't believe in something bigger than ourselves. We need to believe in something even if it is that oreos are the best thing to dunk in milk.

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- Caroline M (edited)
  
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  Best answer ever! The Oreo part. . . . Not the faith is delusional part.
  
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Jacolyn D (edited)

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I certainly don't consider faith and delusion to proverbially be two sides of the same coin. However, I think that if someone believed that, it would likely be due to the nature of faith itself. I believe that faith is putting trust in something that is intangible. Something that you know is real, but that you cannot easily prove. So, if you cannot easily prove it, then some people may think you are delusional.
If someone claims to have faith in something that is completely inaccurate, then the word faith has been wrongly applied to that situation. It would be delusion, not faith. They are certainly not the same thing...

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Lela N

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Scientology?

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sara k

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I think it depends on the point of view...one person's faith might seem delusional to another person, and vice versa. Monotheists think polytheists are delusional, yes? In the sense that they are deluding themselves into thinking that there are many gods, when the monotheist's faith tells him (or her) that there is only one?
Maybe the word 'delusional' is too strong, and has too many bad connotations for it to seem right in the same context with something so highly esteemed as faith.

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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  Ummmmm. What they said. :-S
  
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Nighthawk

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Saturday's question: Many of us have heard it said, “You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression.” With that saying in mind, do you think it’s possible to fully redeem yourself after making a very bad first impression?

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- CC
  
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  Anything's possible, right?
  
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- Erika M
  
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  If given the chance, yes. It is getting the chance that is the problem.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I agree--there are so many factors to consider but if the bad impression was caused by a misunderstanding or some other outside factor, it was not really representative of your true nature, the person that you overwhelmingly "dis"impressed is open minded and your continuing track record from that time forth is good, I think you can redeem yourself and hopefully eventually laugh about it!! :)
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  With some people. With others, maybe not.
  
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- Eric P
  
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  There are many people that I have met in my own life that at first judged me harshly for whatever reason, but then when they heard about things that I have done afterwards started to realize that their initial impression of me was not who I was. This is largely because one meeting of someone does not give you who the person is in their every day life, but people do judge on this first meeting. I do not do this because I am aware that someone could be having a bad day or any other number of factors. While there are some people that I instantly get a "bad vibe" from I do not let that "bad vibe" decide anything until a second meeting of the person. I believe with all my heart it is possible to change someone's mind, but it means making a concentrated effort to do so.
  
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- koren56
  
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  I have met many people in my life that at first seemed perfectly normal but then once I got to know them I decided otherwise!
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  I agree with both Mrs. K and Eric. Some people are open to giving you another chance. Some are just bull headed and no matter how often you redeem yourself they simply are not going to change their opinion about you. Like Eric said, sometimes you're not at your best when you meet someone new and they don't see you as you typically are. Shy people are often, on first impression, thought to be haughty. People, myself included, sometimes have a 'resting face' that looks hateful. Through the years I've discovered that I've given bad first impressions before I've ever even spoken a word simply because I look like I'm angry.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Angela, I am the same way, and I do think it is possible to redeem myself after making a first bad impression.
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  Jacolyn, isn't it frustrating to meet someone new and know that they are judging you harshly because of something you have no control over!! I often overcompensate and put on my biggest smile and concsiously(sp) keep a small smile in place in an attempt to look friendlier. I'd love to have one of those faces that always looks happy; I'd even take the inability to look more than a little bit peeved over this angry face.
  Luckily, like you, I can redeem myself with most people once they interact with me a couple of times. I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "You are really a fun person. When I first met you I thought for sure you were going to be a b*t*h." ::sigh::
  
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- Jacolyn D (edited)
  
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  Lol. I have heard that too. I just look really serious when I am relaxed. I don't even try to fake a smile, because it doesn't look genuine coming from me. It probably makes me look like the big bad wolf grinning in anticipation of eating Red Riding Hood's grandmother. I just be myself and smile when it comes naturally.
  When I was younger, I tried to keep a smile plastered on my face, but all that does is make me feel like my mouth is constantly twitching with the effort!
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  Maybe i think there is always a chance
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  There's always a second, third and fourth chance to make a better impression........as long as the other person is willing to let you make one. Everyone has bad days and we all misjudge.
  
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Nighthawk

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Sunday's question: Should people be allowed to sell their organs?

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- Mrs. K
  
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  I think there is enough corruption in the world without this. Organ donation is a gift of life. I don't think it should be done for profit.
  
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- Deb
  
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  Well said Mrs. K.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  I agree with Mrs. K on this one!
  
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- CC
  
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  I also agree, Mrs K. It's a slippery slope. What next???
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I agree, Mrs. K. Donation is great, but selling an organ is just absurd.
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  I agree with everyone else. I have made sure my family knows my wishes on being an organ donor......after I pass! I also think it is a noble gesture to donate an organ, such as a kidney, to friends or family. Selling them, however? If that were allowed we would have people lined up in the streets, ready to have every single organ possible harvested; all for a few bucks. On the other side would be a line of people who had done just that and are now ill (say, their one remaining kidney is failing) and in need of their own transplant.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  i agree with Mrs.k it is a gift you DONATE not sell...
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  YES.
  
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Nighthawk

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Monday's question: If you were adopted, would you want to grow up knowing it or would you rather find out when you’re an adult? Or would you rather not know at all?

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  I would rather know growing up.
  
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- Eric P
  
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  Having been around numerous individuals in my family that were adopted by other family members I have seen first hand what not knowing does, so I would have to say I would rather know if I was adopted. It helps a person to realize that their parents loved them enough to take them in and actually raise them, but they do not have to question when they grow up parts of who they are. Hiding it from a child just makes them feel that they had something wrong with them that needed to be hidden, but telling them just makes it appears to be no big deal which it is at the end of the day.
  
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  If I was adopted, I'd want to know as soon as I was old enough to understand.
  That's why our son grew up knowing he was adopted and that somewhere out there is a very brave and loving mother who made the right decision for her baby which she couldn't keep. He's 24 now and has shown no signs of needing to meet his bio-parents, but that option is always open should he decide to.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  I would rather know. Friends of mine adopted two boys and they told them as soon as they could understand. The boys used to say that their friends mom had to go to the hospital to have her baby but their mom and dad just went to an office.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I would want to know. Part of being in a family should be respect and honesty. If I was adopted, I would feel very disrespected and would have a difficult time continuing to trust my parents, if I knew that they were lying to me about being my real parents.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  i would want to know because even though you might be heart broken i would rather wantto know.
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  I would want to know, also. Children mature at different ages so it may be appropriate to tell one child at the age of 4 or 5 but another child may not be able to comprehend the info until a much later age, but he/she should still be told. I think if I were told as a child I could more believe my parents when they assured me I was special because they picked me. Finding out as an adult would feel more like they had tried to hide the adoption and I would become very insecure in their love for me. I guess I would feel as if they weren't as proud of me as I had always believed and that my life up until then had been a lie. I would also wonder what was 'wrong' with me to make my birth parents not want me. I would feel like I was, somehow, not good enough. I think that parents should tell their children they are adopted but they should NOT paint the birth mother/father in a bad light. They should be open to answering any questions the child may have over the years and supportive if their child decides to search for his/her birth family. Growing up, I knew a couple of girls (unrelated) who were adopted. One of them had always known and she was never too ashamed to talk about it. The other girl accidently found out in high school. She and her adoptive mother (who is biologically her grandmother) had a falling out and they are estranged to this day.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  I would definitely want to know. As many people said, waiting until one is an adult just seems like sort of a betrayal.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  My sister had a son, but then could have no other children. She adopted a brother and sister who were both drug babies. The kids know they were adopted, even though they are both still young (9 and 7). My sister also involved her son in the actual adoption; having him go to court and talk to the judge that did the adoption proceedings. Her son is now 11½.
  
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- Raine
  
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  Erika, that is a nice adoption story!
  I'd want to know growing up. I used to think I was adopted because I didn't look like anyone in my family and they all made jokes about the milk man being my father (ha ha not funny to little Lorraine).
  Anyway, we found some old pictures in my aunt's attic, and one was of my great grandmother (it's the only picture of her, she passed away in Ireland at a young age and my great grandfather brought my grandmother to the USA). Anyway, I look just like her! I had the picture enlarged and framed.
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  Oh, what a spectacular discovery, Raine! I'm very into geneology. Hearing stories and seeing pictures of my distant 'greats' are very special to me. I can only imagine your joy at seeing that long lost picture and discovering you look just like her. Old pictures of my grandparents as young adults, and especially pictures of my great, and great-great relatives make me wonder just what kind of person he/she was and what kind of life they led.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  I have known since I was 8. My Aunt is actually my birth mother and my Mother is actually my Aunt. I was devestated when I was told, but I think it would have been fine if there wasn't a constant (to this day) battle between my Aunt and mother and so much pain has been dealt out, down to my sister and brother, who, one used it as a weapon "you're adopted etc etc etc...." It created so much insecurity within the family that bad things happened all around. It unfortunately put a wedge between us all.
  I have a very happy and full life. I do have very happy memories, but they tend to be clouded over at times by the trouble that knowing created.
  I do believe this is a "particular" set of circumstances but I wish I had never known for my situation.
  Having said that though, if I had found out at a much older age, I would have been extremely upset that something so integral to my life had been hidden from me.
  So, I can't win lol.
  
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Nighthawk

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Tuesday's question: The birth of a child is usually a joyous occasion no matter the circumstances of conception. New life is usually considered a welcomed miracle. Imagine a person with whom you’ve been friendly for many years has a baby. You don’t necessarily consider this person a close friend, but you have gotten to know a little about him/her over the years, and you’ve even spent a few hours here and there with this person. You’re happy for your acquaintance, and you send a gift for the baby and you include a card of congratulations for the new parent(s). A few years later, your acquaintance and the other parent of the baby are killed in a car accident. You wonder what will become of their child, and a few days after the accident you find out. You are contacted by a lawyer who tells you that in their will the parent(s) have requested that you become the guardian of their child. What do you do?

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  This question is about as strange as the one where the acquaintance is asking me to be godmother.
  If I was younger, I'd probably do it, simply because I was unable to have a baby and would have liked our adopted son to have had a sibling or two. But I'm too old to take on the raising of a toddler now! I'd have to decline. Hopefully, some other friend or relative is waiting in the wings and willing. I hope that doesn't sound harsh.
  Now if it was family, that's another matter. Of course I'd become guardian if no one else in the family was able.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  I would question why. Is their family situation so bad that there was no one within the family they could trust? Depending on my situation, I would take in the child. I would be weary to ask a family member of theirs to take guardianship as there must have been a reason that the parents did not trust them enough to begin with.
  
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- Belles
  
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  Decline. I would be a terrible parent. There are many loving couples out there who are looking to adopt a child - I know they would do a better job I could. I just don't have it in me.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  I would be honored, but while I am only 40, I think I would also have to say no. While I am not a natural with kids, as some people are, I think I could be a good parent. The problems are that: 1) I am not in a position financially to raise a child, 2) my health is not the best and I have some chronic conditions, and 3) while she is not completely dependent on me yet, I take care of my mother. Like Belles said, I think there are couples that are in a much better situation to take care of a child. I would be tempted though, since I cannot have children of my own.
  
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  I would say absolute yes it is an honor that they put me in their will because I am such a good friend! I would take care of the baby like it was my own.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  It would depend on my financial situation and on my husband's opinion in the matter. It certainly isn't a decision to rush into or take lightly. I think my initial thought would be to take in the child and be honored that they thought I would be a good parent. However, I would not commit to that until I received confirmation in several areas that it is the right decision.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  Very true... You need the right amount of money and it depends on your partner's opinion too.
  
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- Raine
  
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  I'd probably do it - I am pretty old but I'm a "young" old if you know what I mean. I believe that everything happens for a reason, so if this happened to me, I'd probably go for it.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  Good!
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  Well, talk about a hard decision! First, I would wonder why me, then I would question why they didn't feel they had any suitable relatives capable of doing the job. If being with me was what would ultimately be best for the child I would take him/her in and raise him/her as my own regardless of the financial strain and the physical ramifications I would face as a middle aged woman in very poor health. If I was considered to be the best person to take this child in, I would know that there were indeed no suitable relatives because I would be a poor choice to start raising another child at this point in my life.
  
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- Deb
  
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  I would feel honoured that they had selected me. A child is a special gift and that child is going to need a lot of love and support. I have two daughters 14 and 10 and they would love an addition to the family.
  
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- Caroline M
  
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  I would take the child of course only if I was financially stable enough to support a mouth to feed. If I could not support the child I would definitely make sure it found a good home and that it was an open adoption so I could visit the child and make sure it knew it was given up out of love and not an accident child.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  Take them.
  
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Nighthawk

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Wednesday's Question: Do you craft? What do you do? Macrame, needlework, etc...

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- Belles
  
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  Sometimes I crochet, but not much anymore.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  I cross stitch when my eyes allow it.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  Yes, I am a crafting addict (though for the past two years I haven't done anything). I knit and crochet mostly. I even taught crochet at our local Michaels store (craft store). I crocheted some Barbie outfits that I sold on Ebay. I have also done cross stitch, crewel, embroidery, made jewelry, and done some sewing. It is any wonder that my hands and wrists are in horrible shape?? LOL! Next to my dogs and reading, you may have just hit on my next passion.
  
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- CC
  
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  Does sketchbook journaling count? All I do is paint, and not much of that anymore. :o(
  
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- Erika M
  
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  Yes, that counts. I tired painting, but don't really have a talent for it. I always wanted to be able to sketch well. I'm jealous of those that can.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I cross-stitch--that's the most likely craft you'd find me doing. But I can knit and crochet and sometimes go into hyperdrive on those activities for periods of time. I have also recently started doing artist trading cards and although I don't think I'm very artistic, I'm having a good time. @CC--I just went to my first journaling class today--although we're not necessarily sketching. We can use any medium. We'll see how that goes!! :)
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  Not anymore, but I used to do plastercraft--paint ornaments, etc. and embroider. I also made a lot of latch hook rugs. Now I'm dating myself because I don't think those even exist anymore.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Wow, everyone crafts! I guess I am "the odd one out." I am not crafty or artistic at all. Oh, I want to be, but it just isn't in me to do it well, so I haven't tried much. I save interesting DIY articles on Pinterest, but I haven't tried any of them yet. Some people are just naturally talented at it.
  
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  I finger knit, crochet, knit, loom knit, and some other string crafts! then I take my stuff to garage sales and sell it! I makes headbands and bracelets and hats and scarfs and keychains And flowers and blankets and much more!!
  
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- Eric P
  
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  I do not have the crafting bone unfortunately. I think I would if I started to try to do something because my entire family seems to have that particular gene, especially my mother. The extent of crafty things that I do is writing and I don't think that technically counts. I can't paint or draw for anything I know because I have wanted to produce a comic book for some time, but I can't because I can't draw it so I have been saving to pay an artist for that purpose.
  
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- Deb
  
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  I scrapbook (when time permits). I renovated the basement last year and we added a craft room...unfortunately I haven't used it yet but I know that it is there for when I have time.
  
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- Monica S
  
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  I don't really craft. I know how to knit and crochet. I only sew when I have to, and that goes for most crafts. I did make the mosaïc in our bathroom when we were re-tiling it.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  yes my grandma does a LOT of sewing and crochetting and knitting and more of that type of stuff and i asked her to show me how and she taught me!
  
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- Erika M
  
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  Mrs. K - Latch hook rugs do still exist. You don't find them in stores in great numbers, but there are some beautiful ones in catalogs. I haven't done a latch hook since I was a kid.
  
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- Lisa L
  
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  I made a latch hook rug once! I don't do a lot of crafts I don't have the fine motor skills to be successful in crafts. I have never been. I would used "modified" ones when I was younger...like giant kid sized cross stitch and bigger coloring pages. Crafts frustrate me!
  
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- MelissaD
  
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  I've done some cross-stitching in the past. Something to keep my hands busy while watching a movie so that I don't snack.
  
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- Lela N
  
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  Make bookmarks. Design them for certain series of books I like or create them for a specific type of book.
  
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- Caroline M
  
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  I can knit, sew, and draw but I'm best at clay and photography
  
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- Julie L.
  
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  I love to cross stitch, I've been happy to make some beautiful customized gifts for weddings etc.
  
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- Gigi G (edited)
  
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  Used to cross stitch, embroider, knit, macrame, crochet, weave, sew, decoupage, scrap book, soap make and got bored lol.
  I tried watercolour, loved it but wasn't good.
  I am now thinking sculpting with clay.......maybe I can become Camille Claudel without the insanity and depression lol.
  
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Thursday's question: Children learn to speak based on what they hear people saying around them. It’s one of the reasons a parent and/or parents will hire a caregiver who speaks a different language, so the child(ren) can be fluent in his/her/their native tongue and another almost from birth. With that in mind, at what age should we stop using “baby talk” with children?

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  I've never really used baby-talk with any of my children. A dog is called a dog, and not a "wowwow" (as I've heard some people call them).
  I do talk a lot to my baby-daughter; f.i. when I'm bathing or dressing her, I name all the things we do, so that she can learn what things are called. And I notice that she does pick up on that: when I mention her hand or her foot, she shows them to me.
  My two eldest children talked very well at an early age, and both tend to use words that are too "mature" for their age. But they use these words correctly, and they know what they mean, so I don't have a problem with that.
  When we are reading together, and we come across a word that they don't know/understand, I explain what it means. And then a few weeks later, I hear them using this word in casual conversation :-)
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  At birth. We don't have children, but I never used baby talk with my nieces and nephews. They all have good vocabularies, so I agree with Monica S---explain words and use normal conversation.
  
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  i dont talk to babies in baby talk i talk normally and point to things so they will eventually learn what it is and how to say it.
  
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- Jacolyn D (edited)
  
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  I don't use baby talk with my vocabulary, but I notice that I talk in a higher pitch when I am talking to a baby. It's just a sign of affection for me, and I usually stop talking that way once they are in primary school.
  
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- MelissaD
  
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  I'm with everyone else. I never spoke baby talk to my girls.
  
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- Caroline M
  
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  I never use baby talk it's more a change in pitch to make my words sound sweeter like cooing sounds
  
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- Lisa L
  
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  "baby talk" is actually normal and called "mommy-ese" It's what we do naturally and to children and animals..I am not sure if there is an age where you out grow talking to people that way as it's more of a natural thing!
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I'm going with the majority here--I never talked "baby talk" to my children and they all talked early and always used vocabulary above their age. We talked alot--all the time--but always normal conversation.
  
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- CC
  
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  I agree with Lisa.
  I hope most mothers start out talking mommy-ese. It's a sweet time of mothering and full of lots of laughs. Young animals and young babies respond to it. The problem comes when we continue talking mommy-ese past it's time. Then the growing baby is encouraged to keep up the baby talk because the parents think it's cute and precious.
  I didn't give it much thought raising our one son. If he had unusual pronunciations of words, we just let him keep them using them until he naturally learned the right way to say it. Just one example: he used to call packages "pack-o-weevz" (his dad's occupation: delivery), but that's not what we called them. At a certain age he learned to say it right.
  I don't think it's a big deal, unless the parents encourage it's use for cuteness sake.
  Of course, Blankie will always be Blankie! :o)
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  I never used baby talk, never agreed with it. Why say bah bah when you can say bottle.
  
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Nighthawk

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Friday's question: Reality television programs have been in vogue for at least a decade now. Do you feel this trend will ever wane? Do you feel the more recent shows are becoming more scripted?

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- Belles
  
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  I really hope it wanes significantly in the very near future. And yes, they probably are scripted.
  
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- CC
  
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  Agree with you, Belles.
  
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- Caroline M
  
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  I hope it wanes because I don't think it's wor for word scripted but I don't think it's reality either. If it was reality the show would die down quickly. So therefore the attention seeking individual will change Their behavior into something that is considered exciting and entertaining.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  I think that reality shows have increased because the writing on most of the shows on network TV is not up to par, IMO.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  Reality shows stick around because it's much cheaper for them to make. That I know for sure. And of course most are scripted. Real life is boring. People want to see unreal reality shows lol.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I don't know--it seems to me that instead of waning, they just keep getting more bizarre. And I think the more bizarre they are, the more scripted they are.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  I agree with Belles. The only reality shows I like are the home makeovers or cooking shows. Even those probably have some sort of script.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I agree with everyone else. Reality shows are scripted. (I think they even feed SOME lines.) I enjoy watching the cooking challenges, but aside from those, I am not really entertained by them. It's unfortunate that people would rather experience someone else's fake life than go out and enjoy their own. I am feeling more and more unenthusiastic about how our young people use technology these days. As strong as this may sound, I think that people who watch celeb reality shows are really doing themselves a disservice.
  
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- Raine
  
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  I agree with Leah. It is much cheaper for networks to broadcast and produce reality shows than other types of shows. They are pretty much scripted (did anyone see the last episode of The Hills? Classic IMO).
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  I USED to like Amazing Race and there was one that was a mystery based one, but never had the patience for the others. Never understood why people behaving badly was so interesting or accepted.
  
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Friday's question: Ray Bradbury died recently. Do you have a work of his that is a favorite? Why?

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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  No. I haven't read anything he's written. Sorry,...
  
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- Belles
  
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  I think I've only read Fahrenheit 451 by him, but that was a powerful story.
  
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- CC (edited)
  
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  I loved the classic Fahrenheit 451. I read it in high school, but understood it even better as a mature rereader once I joined Shelfari.
  I also read Dandelion Wine and Something Wicked This Way Comes, also in high school, but can't remember much about them.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  Fahrenheit 451 and the short story "All Summer in a Day." It is a great story to use to talk with students about bullying.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Some of his works are on my TBR list, but unfortunately, I have not gotten to them yet. I will probably read Fahrenheit 451 soon...
  
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- CC
  
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  Thanks for the tip about the short story, Mrs. K. I'll have to try to locate this one. Bullying is really getting to be a major social problem these days.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  I've read: The Martian Chronicles, The Illustrated Man, and Fahrenheit 451. Of those, I think I would have to say that Illustrated Man was my favorite. I read it in 7th grade and I remember gasping at the ending and thinking it was sooo cool.
  
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- Eric P
  
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  Something Wicked This Way Comes is my favorite by him. I love how he makes youth and aging seem so horrific in nature without really giving much effort. He was truly a genius at the craft of writing.
  
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- MelissaD
  
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  I have Fahrenheit 451, but have yet to read it. I think that is the only one I know of.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  Enjoyed Fahrenheit and Something Wicked but that is all I have read.
  
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Ok nobody ask me why I posted two Friday questions. Onward...
Saturday's question: You and a coworker decide to pool your money to buy scratch-and-win lottery tickets. You all will each put in a certain amount of money weekly until you’ve reached a designated threshold. Once you’ve reached that amount, you all will use the money to buy as many tickets as you can and then you’ll split whatever you win. After reaching the threshold, you go together to buy the lottery tickets. Your coworker hands the cashier the cash, and the cashier gives the receipt and the tickets to your coworker, who then splits the stack of tickets and gives you half. You take your tickets home, and your partner does the same. You get home, scratch off all your tickets and end up with a total of $100 in winnings. On your way to work, you stop by the same store where you bought the tickets to cash in your winnings. When you walk up to the register, you notice a new photo behind the counter. It’s a picture of your grinning coworker holding up a huge $75,000 check. You whoop with joy, rush out of the store and drive to your coworker’s home, thinking about how you’re going to spend your half of the $75,000. When you get to your coworker’s house, s/he is less than enthused to see you. Instead of inviting you inside, s/he holds you at the door and explains that s/he doesn’t plan to split the money with you, because the $75,000 winning ticket was in his/her half of the stack you all split the day before. You explain that you all agreed to split the tickets and then split whatever you won. Your coworker says s/he doesn’t remember that being the agreement and closes the door. What do you do?

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- CC
  
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  cry
  
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- Leah K
  
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  Ok NH - why did you post two questions for Friday?
  I'm with CC - I would just cry lol. Unless there's a legal binding, there's not really much I can do about it.
  
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- Nighthawk
  
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  LOL! Because I have lost my mind Leah.
  
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- CC
  
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  It's not lost, NH. Just overactive.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  Nighthawk, and here I thought it was because you were honoring Ray Bradbury. It's a good story... stick to it! ;)
  
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- Lela N
  
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  I would have gotten the agreement in a note which we both would have signed so they couldn't renege.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  NH - Did you check behind the couch cushions? I am always finding things in there.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  Mine's usually under the couch.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I would be angered, but I don't think there is anything that I would be able to legally do that would retrieve the money owed to me, so I would probably just avoid that coworker from then on...
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  in this case....visit a lawyer, would you accept someone taking $35000 out of your hands. You can prove that the tickets were bought in bulk with pooled money.
  That kind of "friend" would ante it over pretty quickly before having to dole out more money for a lawyer.
  
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Sunday's question: When it comes to going to the movie theater these days, does the cost of tickets and concession food keep you away?

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- Leah K (edited)
  
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  Very much so. In a time where we (the husband and I) struggle to make ends meet and try to make dinners on about $5 a night, the cost of a movie and concessions is quite extravagant. $35 between tickets and concessions? No thanks.
  
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- MelissaD (edited)
  
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  This topic came up at work when The Hunger Games came out. I haven't been to the theater in years because of the cost. Way too much for a family of 4. We wait till it comes out on DVD and then make a family night out of it at home. Saves a bunch of money.
  
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- CC (edited)
  
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  Absolutely, that helps drive me away. I never go to movie theaters anymore, and I bet I never will.
  If the experience was enjoyable (and it must be for a lot of people), I'd splurge occasionally. But I can't stand the crowds, the bad manners of the crowd mentality, the noise (why does it have to be so blaringly loud?), and the general uncleanliness of any of the theaters I've been in.
  The cost of the whole squalid experience just makes it that much easier to wait for the movie to come to PPV or DVD, as Melissa says. We just watched Avatar for the first time last night!
  
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- Lela N
  
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  No, it doesn't. I know what to expect and being cheap is not it.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  It only slightly deters me. I don't know what it is about going to the movies but I LOVE it!! I go as often as I can BUT I rarely go in the evening or on weekends (unless it's before noon). Our AMC--which is just about 8 minutes from our house has current movies Monday thru Thursday (all day until 6 in the evening) for $4.50 and Friday, Saturday and Sunday before noon for $4.50. And Tuesday is FREE popcorn day--so I plan my movie going accordingly. Occasionally if there's something out that my husband really wants to see and we can't make it during those hours, we'll go in the evening and pay full price. But when I go by myself or with my granddaughter it's always during the "cheap" hours.
  
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- Eric P
  
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  It does keep me away from the movies because I feel that I can better enjoy the movie at my own home for a much cheaper expense. I can get it from Netflix or purchase the disc. This gives me the ability to watch it on my big screen tv without having to worry about if I need to do something in the middle of the movie. also I can eat whatever I want at home while watching the movie for a lot cheaper. There have been only 2 movies within the last like 5 years that I have watched in theaters: The Hunger Games and For Colored Girls. That is it. I have no desire to sit in a theater these days.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  Partly and partly because it's nicer to watch at home in comfort without having to worry about others who distract me with noise, etc. My husband and I haven't gone to a movie since 1990. I don't think we've missed much. We rent or buy a DVD now and then or wait for the movie to be on TV. There aren't too many movies now that I'm that excited about seeing, anyway.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  While the big screen and surround sound is nice, I don't go to the movies any more. A lot of it is because of the cost. For the money you spend for 2-3 hours, I can buy a bunch of books that last longer and give me a lot more enjoyment.
  Another part is that I don't like "Hollywood" and its culture and the obscene amount of money these people make. I won't get on my soapbox, so I'll leave it there.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  Not in small towns but in like big towns WOW!!
  
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- Belles
  
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  No, it doesn't keep me away. I go to the early shows that cost $5, and I usually sneak in a Coke in purse and sometimes a snack too. I went to see Prometheus today. Fun movie to watch but don't think too hard about the plot because had some holes.
  
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- koren56
  
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  I am lucky to live in a small town where the movie costs $3. Drinks are a dollar and popcorn I think is a dollar. I still dont go often cause the seats get so uncomfortable after a while. Why dont they have recliners! LOL! Also it seems like all they have are kids movies or romance.
  
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- Nighthawk
  
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  We usually go to matinees and three are only three of us. I long ago put my foot down about concessions-we don't buy any. So going to the movies is relatively cheap, but even then we only go for special things. The Avengers, yes. GI Joe-never.
  
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- Raine
  
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  The cost doesn't really keep us away as we used to go to matinees also. We just don't have an interest anymore.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I don't really go to the movies that much. It costs money ($9 for an evening movie; $13 if it is in 3D), I don't have time, and I am generally not interested in most movies anymore. There is an older $3 movie theater ($2 on movies) that shows movies after they have been shown in the regular theater but before they are out on DVD. However, the cheap theater is uncomfortable in comparison to the other one which has reclining chairs with arm rests that can be moved out of the way. We go to the movie theater about once every few months. The last movie I saw there was the Hunger Games.
  
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- Deb
  
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  When we do go it is with coupons of some sort or when the ticket prices are reduced. I also bring snacks in my purse because the prices at the concession are ridiculous.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  $4 for matinees ('till 3) and $7 afterward. I just get coffee and the kids each get a treat. None of us can eat the popcorn anywhere we go because the oil they use makes us feel sick to our stomache afterwards. Movies are still a great nite out.
  
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Nighthawk

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Monday's question: Vincent’s aunt, Madge, put it in her will that she wanted him to deliver the eulogy at her funeral. The problem is that Vincent didn’t at all like his Aunt Madge. She was always critical of him and took every opportunity to make him cry as a child. When he got old enough to refuse to visit her, no one in his family could convince him to change his mind. The family is expecting Vincent to say nice things about Madge now that she’s passed away, but Vincent doesn’t have any nice things to say about her. He’s decided to be frank and honest in his eulogy. Would you say this is the best thing for him to do?

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- Mary Ann Giasson
  
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  I think he should defer to the old saying "if you can't say something nice about somebody, don't say anything at all." He should politely decline and the family should choose someone else who might have been closer.
  
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- CC
  
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  No, a funeral is not the time to air the family's dirty laundry. He should politely decline and let them find someone else for the honor.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  He should politely say no thank you, an find someone else, but still go.
  
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- Raine
  
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  I think he should decline. Maybe Madge knew that he would be uncomfortable. Or maybe she knew that he may air some dirty laundry. Anyway, it was probably Madge's last poke towards Vince but I don't think he should do it.....
  
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- Fighting Irish Fan
  
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  I think that would be a good reason not to follow through with her last wishes.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Everyone can find something nice to say about someone that is truthful. It might take a long thing to come up with something nice, but there is always something to say. If I were Vincent, I would try to think of a funny story about her, and then I would try to come up with a few nice things about her.
  
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- Book Concierge
  
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  Vince should decline. In his shoes, at most I would introduce the person who truly liked Aunt Madge and who would then deliver the eulogy.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I have to go with the majority here--decline and let someone who had a better experience talk about her. :)
  
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- Lela N
  
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  I am of the minority that think it's ridiculous to make out someone was a good person just because they died. Only The Good Die Young does not apply to everyone.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  I agree with most everyone here, decline. It's a matter of respect. He may not have respected her or liked her, but others are bound to. And having him air his feelings and dislike in the middle of a funeral? Not the time or place.
  
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- Belles
  
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  This discussion reminds of that episode of The Sopranos when Tony's mother died. She was such a hateful shrew so no one could think of anything nice to say so they all just kept saying "Whadda ya gonna do?"
  Someone's funeral is not the appropriate time to air grievances against that person. If you had something to say to them you should have said it before they passed. It's completely acceptable for Vincent to pass on giving the eulogy since he holds onto his animosity toward her.
  
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- Deb
  
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  You could offer to do a reading instead, perhaps a poem or something from the bible.
  
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- CC
  
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  That''s a great idea, Deb.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  Just because it is in the will doesn't mean he must speak. I would guess he wouldn't even be attending the funeral.
  
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Tuesday's question: There isn't one! Instead, go do something nice for someone that does not benefit you and come back and tell us about it.

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- Leah K
  
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  Wish I could say I did something super nice for someone today. But the most I did was sit on the back of our car and smile at people in the parking lot while I waited for my husband. But I'm sure my smile brightened someone's day.
  
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- Nighthawk
  
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  I'm sure it did too!
  
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- Belles
  
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  I tried to help a baby bird that fell out of its nest. I couldn't find the nest so I put it under a pine tree where it would be a little sheltered and hopefully safe. I read a website that said the parents might feed it even though it's not in the nest. Poor thing.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  Ahhhh! Poor baby bird! I smiled too=)
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I also wish I could say I did something really great for someone today--if you had just asked today I could say that I baked a cherry cobbler for the elderly couple that let us have all the beautiful cherries from their tree. :) Close but not a winner!
  
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- CC
  
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  Are you kidding? You're a winner, Bev!
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  To be honest, I didn't really do anything nice without benefitting. I did take care of my husband who wasn't feeling good that night, but I am pretty sure that I benefit from keeping my husband healthy...
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  That's CC--that's nice!! I'll probably benefit in the long run but their smiles made my heart happy!! :)
  
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Wednesday's question: Why would you say (or why would you not say) that an long-term, online-only relationship can (or can’t) be as fulfilling as an long-term, offline relationship?

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- Belles
  
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  I would think that it couldn't be as fulfilling because you can't have experiences together - you can only talk about them later.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  Nothing beats face-to-face communication. We use facial expressions, tone of voice, etc. to help us connect as humans. Online (despite the LOL's and cute little faces we can insert) we lose part of the connection we make when we are together. Also, it's easier to be deceptive online---no body language to give you away.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  I would say that you need to be able to talk to each other face to face and they could be lying about themselves on the Internet to make them sound better then when they meet you they are completely different.
  
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- CC
  
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  Well said, Mrs K.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I think Mrs K about wrapped it up!!
  
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- Erika M
  
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  Ditto!
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I think that the beginning stages of an online relationship can be as fulfilling as an offline relationship, but I don't think it would be healthy for the relationship to become serious without the couple spending time face-to-face.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  There's nothing better than sharing a smile, holding hands, being spontaneous, experiencing something new together. I think you can certainly meet online but not share a fulfilling realationship.
  
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Deb

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Thursday's question... If money were no object and you couldn’t have it both ways, would you choose to be a giver or a receiver?

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- CC
  
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  Ok, I'll admit, I'd rather be on the receiving end.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  I'm not trying to be greedy but you've got to take care of yourself before anyone else... So i would be reciever...
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  It depends on who is more needy. If it was between me and someone who was wealthy, I would be the receiver. However, if the other person was more needy, I would choose to be the giver, even if I didn't have a lot myself.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  I'd be a giver. I don't tend to buy a lot of things for myself, but I love giving things to other people. It is one of the best parts of Christmas. I love the feeling I get when I find something I know someone will like. Then I can't wait to give it to them, and when I do, and I see how much they enjoy whatever it is, I feel great all over again. I don't know that I ever would have a lot of money because I do tend to spend it on people I know.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I agree with Erika--if money is no object I would be a giver--as much as possible. I too feel good seeing others enjoy whatever I've gotten for them.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  A reciever........I have too many people who need to be given to :)
  
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Friday's question: Is it ever okay to lie?

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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  It's Firday??
  
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- Erika M
  
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  Yes. There are times that I believe that lies are acceptable.
  
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- CC
  
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  No, it's Fursday...LOL
  Did you change your name? Nighthawk gives us each day's question the night before, usually.
  No, I don't think it's okay to lie. But most of us have done it at least once, right?
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I think that some very rare occasional lies are OK--mostly just little social things that spare someone's feelings. Generally though I think that honesty is the best policy.
  
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- ~MusicMaster~ singing is a passion not a chore
  
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  No I don't think it's right to lie but only if VERY important!!
  
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- koren56
  
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  I think it would be ok to lie if it would hurt someone to tell the truth. People do it all the time. (Does this dress make me look fat? Ohhhh, no, of course not)! LOL!
  
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- Belles
  
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  Yes, I think it's ok to lie sometimes. We all tell small lies to be polite in certain social situations - your baby is cute, I like your new haircut, etc. If you tell people their baby is ugly or that their hair looks like it lost a fight with a weed whacker you're going to get a reputation as an obnoxious jerk.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I read a biography once of Corrie ten Boom, a Christian girl whose parents were hiding Jews from the Nazis in the Holocaust. If I remember correctly, the Jews were hidden under a trap door with a rug drawn over it and the dining room table was over the rug. When the Gestapo came in, they asked little Corrie where the Jews were, and she frantically replied, "They are under the table," because she knew it was wrong to lie. Fortunately, when the Nazis looked under the table, they only saw the rug, and therefore did not find the Jews who were hidden beneath the rug.
  Anytime I am asked if it is okay to lie under the right circumstances, I think of this story. I think it is a good example of a time where it is necessary to lie.
  
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- Fighting Irish Fan
  
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  Yes, sometimes you need to spare other's feelings.
  
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- Deb
  
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  I do think it's ok to tell little lies on occasion. I like Jacolyn's answer.
  
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- Raine
  
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  Yes, like as in "Does my butt look fat in these pants?" That kind of thing!
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  Yes, but then I call them Fibs lol.
  
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Saturday's question: Agatha, a stay-at-home mom, who devoted 20 years of her life as a military spouse until her husband retired a year ago, lives on the East Coast with her husband and children, loves her life and is smack, dab in the middle of the most comfortable routine that her life has had in years. She’s settled, has friends to hang out with and just loves not having to pack up and move to another of her husband’s duty stations after two or three years. She has also seen how the permanency of being in one place has settled her children, and they are thriving. One day while planning her weekend, her husband, Edward, tells her he needs to talk with her about something very important. Edward goes on to explain how his parents are not doing very well on their own and he’s concerned for their safety. They live on the West Coast, so it takes a long time to get to them if something happens. Agatha loves her in-laws, so she tells Edward that she’d be happy to have Edward’s parents move in with them. However, that’s not what Edward has in mind. He goes on to tell Agatha that the plan is for them to sell their home and re-establish themselves on the West Coast near his parents. Since they’re older and fragile, and need to be near the doctors and places they trust, Edward couldn’t convince his parents to move to the East Coast. Edward tells Agatha that the final decision rests with her. He acknowledges all the sacrifices she made during his military career, and he also acknowledges that he knows she and their children have been very happy staying put and growing roots in their current community. He tells Agatha that she can decide whether they stay or go. What should Agatha do?

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- Leah K
  
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  I would support the decision. If his family is so important that he feels he has to be there, I would understand.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  Probably move.
  
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- MelissaD
  
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  Yep, I'd probably move.
  
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- CC
  
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  One more move...and it's from the East Coast to the West Coast! Boy Howdy!
  Actually, even if it was the other way around, they've only been settled a year, so what's one more move to keep the family together?
  
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- Lela N
  
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  Yeah, with everyone else. And if there kids were raised army brats, I'm sure they could readjust again, and maybe being closer to their grandparents would help with the adjustment. Unless they don't like their grandparents, haha.
  It sounds like if Ana supported him through all those years and all he's done, she wouldn't be the type of person to not support the move for his parents.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  I agree with everyone else. Move to the west coast.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I agree. I would certainly move.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  Before high school I would say "Let's go." During high school for the kids, it would be either the husband lives there and commutes for four years or we put them in a nursing home until we can go. I understand 4 years is an eternity for them, but they have had their time to begin their lives; my children need the same opportunity to begin strongly. Having lived through many many of my husband's transfers, this is one promise we were unwilling to break. So that meant my husband would transfer alone a few times until one of the kiddies graduated.
  
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Sunday's question: There are good dates and bad dates. Of course, we all would prefer the good dates. With that in mind, what was the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you on a date?

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- CC (edited)
  
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  1974: Right after my divorce from my first husband, I started dating my step-brother's goofy roommate. He took me to the movie theater to see "Billy Jack." During an intensely violent fight scene between BJ and the crooked cops, this date of mine stood up in the crowded theater and yelled: "F***-ing Pigs!"(Back then, the f-word was basically taboo, but starting to gain popularity among young folks.) Needless to say, our dating was short-term. LOL.
  
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- Raine
  
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  That was unheard of in 1974! I can't remember my worst date - I know there had to be one. I haven't been on a date in a long time.
  
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- Nighthawk
  
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  I took this girl out who was in Mensa once-smart but no common sense. She had just gotten a job selling Rainbow vacuum and persuaded me to take her to a house to listen to her spiel. Being a nice guy I took her-the house belonged to her ex-boyfriend. Things went downhill from there. I did get a complimentary hunting knife out of the deal. We call that motive means and opportunity BTW.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  That she was in Mensa and was selling Rainbows should have been the first hint! (Though Rainbows are good vacuums.)
  
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- Nighthawk
  
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  We did not know about the Rainbows till after the date started-
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  It happened so long ago that I can only remember a classmate and I had nothing to talk about. It was during Christmas break of my first year of college and we went to my brother's basketball game. Except for the game, it was boring.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I don't think I have been on an official date, unless you count the ones that I went on with my husband (none of which were bad, as I recall). I started dating my husband just after high school. In high school, I had two or three boyfriends, but we didn't really go on dates. We just spent time together with friends or at my house... So, I haven't really had any bad dates.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  My most embarrassing date was the one that I didn't know I was on. I had divorced my 1st husband--I don't know how long it had been and one evening when I was picking my son up from scouts, one of the pack leaders came over and asked me if I coud take some time to talk to him because his wife was divorcing him and he thought I might be able to help him understand what was happening. Well--me being a clueless, compassionate kind of person said I'd be glad to and he said he'd come by the next evening and we'd go eat and chat. So......he shows up with roses and I'm thinking whoa--isn't he jumping the gun just a little? Bottom line was every time I tried to tell him that I wasn't interested in dating anyone, he'd just kept telling me that we could help each other through our troubles. I believe it was the longest evening of my life before I could convince him that I just wanted to go home. Luckily he remarried about a month after his divorce was final. Can we say D E S P E R A T E?????
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  Funny I was just telling my daughter about it. This boy whom I had had a crush on for a couple of months finally asked me out and I wanted to be perfect. So I exfoliated, bubble bathed, got a new haircut, did my nails, bought new perfume, a really cute sundress and thought I should try to get my hair shinier. I had a book put out by Vogue for at home remedies for facial masks, cleansers, hair masks etc and thought i would try one. Oil, egg and avodcado, check......my hair would be glowing. So i put everything in my hair after a hot shower, wrapped it with foil and waited the 15 minutes before taking it out. Went to take it out and the egg had cooked in my hair, actually bits of egg all through my hair. I showered again and the darn egg was still in it. By the time the boy came over I had taken my third shower and He laughed so hard at the story and the fact that I still had egg in my hair, we stayed at my home and had a really great nite. I dated him for three more years (the rest of high school) and we are still friends. Nothing like a good sense of humour!
  
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- CC
  
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  I'm laughing pretty hard at this story myself, Gigi.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  My daughter just shook her head and called it a "mom" moment lol. Pretty well sums me up :)
  
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Monday's question: How long can you stand to be alone with your own thoughts before you have to have outside stimulation?

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- CC
  
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  hours...all day...I prefer silence as much as possible. Introvert?
  
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- Mrs. K (edited)
  
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  Days if I have plenty of things to read, but I guess that would be outside stimulation.
  
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- CC
  
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  I think of outside stimulation as noise: TV, car radio, cell phones, even computers (I leave mine on silent), games, crowds, friends, music. Communicating on the computer, reading, learning, now I need that daily. But reading is a part of my own thoughts, so I guess I never thought of it as outside stimulation like TV with its blaring commercials is..
  BTW, I'm retired, so I can do this.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Without a book? I would last maybe 5 hours. With a book? I could last at least a day or two. After that, I would need some type of human interaction. I am an introvert, so it wouldn't be terrible for me.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  I'm with everyone here. As long as I have a book, I'm sure I would be fine for day. In fact, my husband is leaving for vacation in a few weeks and I'm looking forward to having the place to myself. Just me, the cats, and a book...or a dozen...or hundreds. You know, whatever.
  
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- MelissaD
  
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  Days...with a good book. I have an 11 year old and a 3 year old, so quiet time is much needed most days.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  With reading material, I too could go days without outside stimulation. I've never had a problem being alone.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I'm joining everyone else here (we just won't talk amongst ourselves), I am perfectly happy with my own company. As long as I have my books, plenty of snacks and my computer (turned all the way down) I could manage for days.
  
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- Raine
  
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  Me too. I'm pretty happy with my own company. I talk to customers all day at my job - so I relish the quiet time.
  
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- CC
  
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  This love of solitude, with a good book of course, must be part of the Bookworm gene. :o)
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  I'm okay with my own thoughts, but I do get bored easily so a book or music or a book of puzzles of some sort, a walk, or gardening would have to happen.
  
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Tuesday's question: Dabney decides to have a yard sale to make some money on items in her home that are not getting any use. During the sale, her friend, Angela, comes by to help her out. A customer asks Angela the price of an item and Angela is astonished to see it’s one of the gifts she gave Dabney for her birthday. What’s even more shocking to Angela is that the item still has the price tag attached. Angela refers the lady to Dabney and then goes in the direction of the table where the lady got the item. When Angela looks at the items on the table, she sees several of the birthday and Christmas gifts she’s given Dabney over the years and all the items still have their tags attached. Angela is extremely hurt by what she sees, but she’s not sure whether she should mention it to Dabney or not. What do you think Angela should do?

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- Belles
  
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  I think Angela should realize that she picks horrible gifts for Dabney, and that in the future she shouldn't buy things that she (Angela) likes but things that Dabney would like.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  Why did Angela leave the price tag on a gift she gave someone? She should say nothing. Everyone needs to get rid of things they don't use at some time or another.
  
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- CC
  
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  Wow! This happened to me once. I went to a yard sale (some relatives had it) and saw all the cute stuffed animals and toys I'd given my step-sister's sons over the years and I was just crushed! Went home, pouted, thought of all the scathing remarks I could make to her, and then....it occurred to me: Just like Mrs K says "Everyone needs to get rid of things they don't use at some time or another." Those two nephews were growing up and they didn't need those kind of toys cluttering up their house anymore. So I kept my mouth shut and let it be.
  If I was in Angela's shoes, I'd do the same. Also, I really wouldn't bother with gifts any more. People put way too much emphasis on gifts and material things. Next time gift-giving comes up, I'd suggest that with this bad economy and all, maybe we should pass up the gift-giving and just get together for a good time. You can't leave a price tag on that.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I agree with Mrs. K. Everyone needs to declutter sometimes.
  
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- Eric P
  
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  Angela sounds like a not so nice person in my opinion. If she is leaving the prices on the gifts it means that she wants recognition for giving the gift and wants Dabney to know exactly how much she is spending on her. That is not what gift-giving is about. It is giving to someone out of the kindness of your heart because you care for them, want to help them or other positive reasons. Angela's intentions are not pure based on the scenario given.
  Angela needs to recognize that if so many of her gifts are in this sale that it may mean that the gifts she purchases for Dabney are not things that Dabney actually enjoys. It may be best for Angela to reevaluate what she is giving her. If she discovers that Dabney doesn't like what she gives her there is always the world of gift certificates to amazon.com where Dabney can make her own purchases and this would also save Angela any hurt later on since she wouldn't have a clue what Dabney spent it on and she would later be able to sell it without hurt feelings should the need arise.
  The other thing to consider (which CC mentioned about the economy in her posting) is that we are indeed in bad economic times, so just because she is selling them doesn't mean that she doesn't appreciate the gift. It may just be that she has to pay a bill by a certain date or face something that she doesn't want to have to deal with, like possible foreclosure or a medical bill that is outrageous. Angela is not taking life into consideration or the fact that maybe Dabney is upset that she has to get rid of these items, but feels that she has little choice.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  I agree with CC. Maybe the next time a gift giving occasion comes around, she should suggest going out for a bite to eat and pick up the check, or give a gift card. I LOVE Amazon gift cards!!! LOL!
  
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- Leah K
  
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  I am with everyone else. People have to get rid of things. We would all be on the show "Hoarders" if we never got rid of anything ever.
  
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- koren56
  
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  Something similar happened to me years ago, except there was no garage sale. When my dad was alive we must have all given him flannel shirts for gift giving occasions. He always told us how much he appreciated it so we thought he needed them. After he went into the nursing home and we had to clean out his house we opened a metal closet in the basement and it was FULL of flannel shirts that had never been worn. Not hurt, just felt foolish for not having more imagination, but you know how hard those guys are to buy for.
  
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- CC
  
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  Koren, your answer brought back fond memories. We never knew what to give my dad for Christmas either, so we almost always gave him flannel shirts. For us, it was a practical gift, because that's all he ever wore.
  He never owned a suit in his life. When he died, the funeral home offered to fix him up with a fake one for burial, but we decided that since he wasn't a suit and tie kind of guy, we'd dress him as everyone knew him: in bib overalls and a flannel shirt! We felt he would have approved 100%.
  He never ever knew what to get us for Christmas, so it was usually a card with some cash in it. But every year I could count on him giving me a big bottle of Kahlua. He knew I loved to drink Kahlua & Cream, but I only drink it on special occasions, so I usually still had some left in last year's bottle when the next Christmas rolled around. I haven't had any since he died 7 years ago.
  So, yes, I know how hard those guys are to buy for!
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  I would never be in that situation, ever. I know who gave me what and if she were coming to help me, all of those things would go back into my home lol.
  
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Wednesday's question: How would you feel if your significant other agreed to go somewhere with you that s/he really doesn’t want to go, and s/he brings something else along to keep him/her occupied?

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- Belles
  
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  Hmm...I could imagine myself bringing along my Kindle if I was obligated to go somewhere where I'd be bored.
  Honestly, I wouldn't make them go if I knew up front that they would hate it so much that they had to bring something else to do. Or if it was an event where I expected him to be social (office holiday party for example), I'd make an agreement up front that he has to be social but we can leave after two hours.
  
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- CC
  
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  It'd be the other way around for us. LOL.
  
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- Deb
  
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  I would hope that if he agreed to go he would put forth an effort to have a good time. If you go to an event thinking you are going to be miserable then you probably are. My husband and I have both sat through boring events in order to support the other.
  If he truly didn't want to go and it was appropriate for me to go alone or bring a friend I would.
  
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- Raine
  
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  HAHAHAHAHA - here's a story - I LOVE sports and my husband really doesn't. I used to DRAG him to Phillies games with me. He would bring a book!
  We were at the Kevin Millwood no hitter game - April 27, 2003 - and my husband read a Greek mythology book throughout the game. On the way home, we were listening to the local sports call in radio show, and the guys who were sitting behind us called in and mentioned the guy who sat and read throughout the game.
  I also remember taking him to a Wings Lacrosse game (very exciting, edge of your seat stuff) and he sat and read a book called THE HISTORY OF WATER. I told him, "Watch the game - I can tell you the history of water - God said, "let there be water". He proceeded to tell me about beavers and what not.
  Needless to say, I'm used to it :-)
  
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- CC
  
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  Raine, I'm RITFL! Especially about the radio call! And as to your history of water, hahahahaha! Having a husband who scorns reading, I'm starting to have a warm & fuzzy feeling towards yours!
  Thankfully, neither of us are sports fans---but I hate the music my husband seems be taken by recently, so when he's watching those gaggy music videos on TV, I head outside with a book.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Raine, I love your stories! That is absolutely hilarious!
  
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- Leah K
  
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  lol Raine. Your story made me giggle. And I'm like CC - my husband hates reading so I adore yours now. And...I would totally read about the history of water!
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  It depends where we are. If it is a date or a social function, I would expect my husband to interact with other people. (With his personality, it's never a problem anyway. I am usually the one wishing I brought my Kindle.)
  If we were doing something informal on our own, I wouldn't care if he brought something to occupy his time.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  Definitely depends on the situation. If I think he would hate it though, I wouldn't ask him to come....I'd get a girlfriend to come lol.
  
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Thursday's question: Shawn and Mona decided they would go through marriage counseling before setting a date for their wedding. Although they’ve been together for three years, they believe seeking professional counseling will expose them to things they’ve never thought about when it comes to marriage. Their first several sessions go well, and they realize they have pretty much the same ideas about having/raising children, finances, what constitutes the best quality of life, etc. At their next session, they stumble onto an issue that they are surprised they disagree on. Deshawn is opposed to having a television in their bedroom, and Monifa is opposed to not having a television in their bedroom. Hopefully, they can work it out. Which do you prefer; a television in the bedroom or no television in the bedroom?

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- MelissaD
  
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  Television in the bedroom. My husband and I enjoy watching movies before bed when the children are asleep. A little us time together.
  
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- CC
  
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  No TV in the bedroom. One TV in the living room is enough for us.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  We have a TV in the bedroom, one in the living room, one in the basement, and one in the garage. TV in the bedroom has been handy if we want to watch different things that are on at the same time.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  We have a television in the bedroom to watch the occasional Netflix. I could care less if there is a TV in the bedroom, or anywhere else for that matter lol.
  
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- Belles
  
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  I'm an insomniac so having a TV in the bedroom is a big no-no.
  
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- Fighting Irish Fan
  
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  I thought this was going to be more of a complex question. lol I love having a TV in my room.
  
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- Deb
  
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  I don't have a TV in the bedroom and never have. I am not opposed to it it's just never happened.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  I don't currently have a TV in my room, but that is because it is only my mother and I in my house. Since she is alone while I am at work, she would prefer if I watch TV with her when I am home. I actually don't watch that much TV, even though it is on. I am usually on the computer or reading. My parents did have a TV in their room when I was younger, though I think my sister and I watched more TV in their room then they did.
  
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- CC
  
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  LOL, Irish! I thought we were going to have to decide if they should go ahead with the wedding or if this was the deal-breaker.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I thought so too, Irish & CC!
  We have done both. We started out our marriage with a TV in the bedroom. (My husband has always had one in his bedroom and had a difficult time falling asleep if there wasn't constant background noise.) However, our TV broke a few months ago, and we haven't been in a hurry to replace it. Someone has offered to give us a TV, so we may get one again, but to be honest, I don't really feel the need to have it. My husband now falls asleep without it, and I enjoy having personal time with my husband when we go to bed. It just feels more intimate when there isn't a lot of noise or changing scenes from the TV.
  
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- Fighting Irish Fan
  
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  Yeah. If this was a deal-breaker in their marriage, I don't think they would have had a successful one to begin with.
  
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- Lisa L (edited)
  
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  I didn't have a TV in my room until I was getting ready to go to college. I had there for about 8 years and now I don't have it there anymore because when we had to go to cable it was too hard to put it in my room so they put it in my sister's room. My parents have always had TV in their room and it was good because they could stick us in there to watch TV that was on around bed time or when they were hosting guests downstairs! I think they use it more when they are getting ready in the morning then they do at night. I am used to not having a TV but it wouldn't bother me if we did have one!
  It's having one in the kitchen that I would fight about!
  
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- Lela N
  
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  In the bedroom! During flares and stuck in bed it can be the only thing to entertain me. Someone mentioned insomnia, same reasoning there.
  
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- Raine
  
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  We've always had this discussion.......I won when we were first married (1999) but then when we moved to Boston in 2008 we didn't have a TV in the bedroom anymore and haven't since. I'm glad we don't; right now we hardly watch TV at all!
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  We have a tv in every room except the bathroom. The kitchen tv is hooked straight to the living room tv so you have to watch the same thing. But the point of having the tv in the kitchen is to be able to go back and forth while cooking dinner or whatever without missing part of the show. Yeah, I know. We're spoiled.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  We opposed it for so long, then when the first baby came we thought "why not", never used it though (as you can imagine). We had it in our room for 5 years using it maybe 1-2 times in total. Then I began watching the tv to go to sleep when i began having problems falling asleep and omg, everynight was an all nighter and my husband said he was getting burnt to a crisp from the light. So we took it out and never had it back in. Not a good thing for insomniacs lol, now i turn to books, my husband still complains about the "tanning bed" and occasionally I do pull all nighter when the book is too good to put down, but it does get my mind to stop so i can go to sleep for awhile.
  
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Friday's question: As it stands right now, your life isn’t so bad. You’re not necessarily doing what you’d like to do, but you’re doing pretty well with what you’re doing. Then, BAM!!! You have a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to drop everything and take a CHANCE on your dream life/lifestyle. The catch is that win or lose, make it or fail, you CANNOT return to your current life/lifestyle. What do you do?

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- MelissaD
  
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  Decline
  
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- Lela N
  
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  Pass. Would never do something spur of the moment like that, especially with those conditions.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I don't like taking chances with such a large risk factor, so I would probably decline.
  
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- Belles
  
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  I'd pass as well. I'm not a huge risk taker.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  I'd pass; I can't even decide to retire yet, although I'm old enough.
  
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- CC
  
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  I'd go for it!
  
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- Raine
  
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  I'd go for it. I'm such a high risk taker that nothing really phases me.
  
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- Fighting Irish Fan
  
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  Go for it.
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  Well, I'm living my dream life........minus all the money and good health. But I just couldn't risk losing Mr. Sugar Britches or anyone else in my family on the off-chance that I may become a healthy wealthy lonely woman.
  
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- Eric P
  
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  I would do it. So much of my past life has been negative and I have had to upheave things numerous times. One more time would have little meaning to me at this point of my life. I would take the chance so that I don't feel like I passed up an opportunity. Also since I am currently in the low-income bracket I would be like woot woot it means I can't go back to the poor house lol (Your rules hehe)
  
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- Erika M
  
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  At this point in my life, I think I would say no. I've started over a few times already. My current situation is not so horrible that I would want to risk ending up in a worse situation.
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  Eric, I just noticed your profile pic.............thanks for the earworm. ;-)
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  We would take the challenge. There's always another life of equal or better level to be had. It would drive us crazy not trying, if the odds were equal that is.
  
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Saturday's question: When you’re driving and pass a car that’s been pulled over by a police officer, do you automatically look down at your speedometer?

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- CC
  
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  Yeah, I check it out.
  
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- Lisa L
  
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  Here in MA we have the slow down and move over law so you have to slow down if you pass any emergency vehicle in the break down lane or if you can move to another lane you have to so yes I look down and slow down.
  
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- Belles
  
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  Yes, I check it out. We also have the slow down 20mph or move over a lane law.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I always check my spedometer if I see a police car, and I usually ease on the brake a bit too, even if I am already driving under the speed limit.
  I believe in NY we have a law that requires a car to move over if there is an emergency vehice parked in a lane, and when it was first put into effect, the cops would sometimes park 2 cars whenever there was an emergency - 1 car to help and the other car to pull people over if they didn't move over. I think it is a great law. One time I was in a car that got a flat tire on a major highway. We had to pull over and there was just enough room for the car between the guard rail and the right lane with about a foot of space between us and the road. I remember being so scared that someone would hit us, because cars would drive past in the right lane at 70/80 mph, and our entire car would shake like crazy. The cop who came to help us was so mad that people weren't moving to the left lane when they had a lot of space to switch lanes.
  
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- Book Concierge
  
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  I don't automatically look down because I usually use my cruise control on the highway ... set at 50 mph. Yes, I know that is "slow" but I don't care. I stay in the right lane and there's plenty of room for other drivers to pass me in the two lanes to my left. If I see someone pulled over I do try to merge to my left, but during morning/evening rush that's easier said than done. If I can't move over, I apply the brakes and slow to about 40.
  On city streets, I do move over where I can (in my neighborhood most of the streets are only two-lane, so there is no other lane unless you cross into on-coming traffic. Of course, most of the time there's is no on-coming traffic, either. Pretty quiet subdivision!
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  Only if I don't have cruise control set.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  By the time I get to the car, I've already looked :)
  
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Sunday's question: You work the 11p-7a shift at a 24-hour supermarket. At around 9p, your babysitter calls and tells you s/he isn’t going to be able to come and watch your child(ren). You call everyone of whom you can think and everyone to whom they can think to refer you, but you can’t find a babysitter on such short notice. You have to get to work. This job is your sole source of income. You supervisor has made it clear that if you miss another day of work because of childcare issues, you will be terminated. What do you do?

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- CC
  
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  Call in sick and hope for the best.
  "Is it ever ok to lie?" (Question 9 days ago) No, but sometimes there's no other choice. I really feel for single parents who must work and deal with childcare issues.
  
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- Leah K
  
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  If there is no other choice, I would have to call in and hope for the best. My children would come first.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  First, I would call the babysitter and ask if he or she is absolutely sure that he/she cannot come. (I would also mention that I would lose my job, just to let them know how lifechanging the last minute call was.)
  Then, I would call in and hope that the manager has some compassion.
  I am very blessed to have enough people in my life who would be willing to drop anything to help me in an emergency. (I would reciprocate, of course.) I am happy that I may never need to make this decision in real life.
  
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- Raine
  
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  Definitely call out.
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  Unfortunately, I've been put in this position. My boss's solution was to 'order' me to bring playpen and child to work with me; which I had to do because we really would have been in dire straites if I had lost my job.
  Luckily, a friend of a friend heard what had happened and offered me a job. I made a little less but it was worth it to get out from under my then present boss.
  I decided 'vengence would be mine'. I was working a job where I was the sole employ and had to be at work at 3:30 am. This first morning of my new job I was knocking on my boss's warehouse door nice and early; at 3 am to be precise. I handed him my keys and told him I was real glad that he had raised 3 kids and none of them had ever gotten sick but mine was sick and she was without a doubt more important than his damn biscuits and gravy. He sputtered and said, "You can't quit." I turned to leave and tossed, "I just did." over my shoulder.
  People who put their employees in that position are heartless and deserve anything karma throws at them.
  
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- Fighting Irish Fan
  
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  I'm with CC. Just call in. Hopefully your Supervisor is understanding that day.
  
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- Raine
  
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  My question is - what do you think you should do as a supervisor? If someone works for you and they do a great job and you are dependent on them to come in but they miss alot of time (not just days here and there where you as the supervisor can cover for them) because of childcare, what do you do?
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Raine, I would probably try to find a few college students who would be willing to come in last minute. Ideally, I would try to find two or three students to fill in if needed (each with a different class schedule so that all of the employee's shifts could be covered at different times if needed). For example, Student A might be available Mondays & Wednesdays, and Student B might be available Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays. (I think there are probably plenty of students who need the extra money but don't want to work full time! And, there are enough people who need a bit of extra money in this economy.)
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  Good idea, Jacolyn!
  If all else failed I would cover the shift myself. In the case of an employee missing alot of work I would first give them a warning, then a write up along with a note stating the next incident (within a certain amount of time) would result in termination.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  I agree with CC.
  
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Tuesday's question: Adam, a male teacher at a private, faith-based elementary school asks for a meeting with his principal after school. Mr. Davis, the principal, agrees to meet with Adam after the final bell and all the students have safely departed the building. When Adam arrives for the meeting, he finds Mr. Davis in a reasonably good mood, and they chat a bit about Adam’s recent marriage. Mr. Davis comments on how much he enjoyed the exchange of traditional vows and how he had an opportunity to meet Adam’s parents and siblings. After the small talk, the principal asks Adam why he wanted to meet. Adam tells Mr. Davis that he’d like to take advantage of the Family and Medical Leave Act, so that he can stay home with his wife and their newborn son. Mr. Davis is quiet for a moment and asks if everything is okay with the baby since he was born prematurely. Adam corrects the principal and tells him that his son was not born prematurely. Again, Mr. Davis is quiet for a moment. Adam waits patiently for an answer as he notices Mr. Davis looking at his calendar. Adam assumes that Mr. Davis is trying to determine how long the school will have to be without him if Mr. Davis honors his request to give him the time off. After about three minutes, Mr. Davis says that he will get back to Adam in a few days. The men shake hands, and Adam leaves the office. Saturday morning Adam receives a letter of termination in the mail. The letter explains that Adam has violated the moral values of the school by conceiving a child out of wedlock. Is this discrimination? Does Adam have any legal recourse to fight his termination?

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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I have no idea what the laws are, but I believe a parochial school is allowed to hire/fire whoever it wants. On the one hand, if they have an issue with something Adam did, they should TALK to him about it, since he is already an employee. On the other hand, they should only have people working there who believe what they believe since the school is based on their faith. I don't think it is discrimination, but I do think it is just not nice to fire someone without sitting down to talk with them.
  
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- Raine
  
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  Yep, a private school can fire for reasons of morality (their definition). This would be a case in a public school.
  
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- Erika M
  
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  Not really the point, but Adam should have allowed the principal to continue to believe his baby was premature. He had to know about the morality clause (or should have if he read his contract). It is not lying if he just said his baby was fine and left it at that.
  
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- Gigi G (edited)
  
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  They wouldn't be able to be fired in Canada. Teacher Unions, for public and private schools are huge here. There must be a valid reason to let them go and that would not be one.
  On a personal note, I think that would be very very wrong. Especially after a) they got married b)they are part of the church none the less c)who would know d)it's nobody's business e)doesn't interfere with him being an excellent teacher and passing along excellent values.
  
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TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.

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This is a tricky one. In a normal situation I would say, yes, it is a form of discrimination and Adam should seek legal advice. The principal of a public school has no legal right to terminate an employee because they have violated his personal values. In a religious private school, however, there are certain behaviors that are simply expected to be upheld by the staff. But, if this particular situation is not covered in the rules of conduct required by the employees, which is given to them at the beginning of their employment, he may still have a case against the school.

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Some parochial schools have contracts that sate that teachers can't live with someone out of wedlock. I don't know about babies out of lock. It would have to depend on the contract.

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Nighthawk

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Wednesday's question: The dynamics of dating have changed so much that there doesn’t seem to be a “norm” anymore. With that in mind, think about this: a woman invites a man on date. Who should be responsible for the finances during the outing?

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- Book Concierge
  
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  Simple rule - the host always pays. If you invite someone out, you pay.
  
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- CC
  
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  Right you are, BC! She should pay --- she invited.
  But what if the man absolutely insists on paying?
  
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- MelissaD
  
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  If the girl asks, she pays. I would feel weird not paying in that situation. If the man insists on paying.. go dutch.
  
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- Raine
  
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  I agree with Melissa, and everyone else for that matter!
  
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- Erika M
  
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  If I asked a man out, I would expect to pay. But since I am rather old-fashioned, I wouldn't argue too strenuously if he insisted on paying.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Agree with everyone else...if a girl asks, she should expect to pay, but the man should definitely offer.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I agree right down the line!!
  
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- Fighting Irish Fan
  
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  I'll keep the line going!
  
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- Eric P
  
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  I agree with everyone else on this one. Whoever does the asking should pay for the date. It is just simple manners. That being said though they should definitely discuss that aspect before the date so that it is clear because I know that some men would be greatly offended that the female would try to pay. This is because of those previously mentioned old-fashioned values. The man might not want to go on a second date simply because she offered to pay for it. This is where simply asking before the date will save a lot of problems later on and could lead to a second date. :-D
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  Whomever does the inviting.......pays.
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  I agree with everyone else. I also agree with Eric on the point he brought up about making it clear that she intends to pay. My husband is still uncomfortable when I pay. He says he feels like he looks like a bum just mooching off a lady. I'm sure that's a problem for many men. Now, if he insists on payinng, I would first suggest going dutch but if he continued to insist I'd let him pay.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Angela, my husband is the same way. Although the money is jointly ours, if we are at a restaurant and he doesn't have his wallet, I have to secretly slip him the credit card from my purse, so that the server doesn't think I am paying for him. We go into stealth mode. Lol!
  
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Thursday's question: You have a good friend or relative who is determined to enter a competition to do something for which s/he totally has no talent. For years, you and so many others have tried to tell this person that this particular thing just isn’t his/her “cup of tea,” but s/he is absolutely determined to enter a competition that will expose him/her to the criticism of thousands of people. What do you do?

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- Lisa L (edited)
  
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  I say let them try. They might surprise you. In first grade a double Dutch show came to school and they wanted volunteers. I raised my hand and the teachers hoped they wouldn't pick me because I'm a klutz. The team picked me I went up and was successful so I think everyone should be given the chance to try
  
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- CC
  
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  MMOB... I agree, Lisa.
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  I agree with Lisa.
  
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- Belles
  
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  I agree with Lisa, as well. It's something they always wanted to do so let them do it. I think whether they succeed or fail is irrelevant to the fact that they have the guts to enter the competition in the first place.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  I agree too. And I really like what Belles said.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I agree with Lisa and everyone else. Also, if you have already tried for years to tell them that they are not great at it, there is probably no changing their mind. Ever see American Idol with people who are completely off-tune but don't know it? The entire world knows that they cannot sing, but the aspiring singers cannot actually hear the mistakes in their own voice. The judges tell them that their voice is absolutely horrible, but they just argue with the judges, say that they are wrong, and say that they will prove to the world that they have a good voice. Some people just won't listen...
  
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- TwistedMind...or Angela if you are so inclined.
  
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  I would probably gently ask if they would be okay if they were judged harshly, then if they were still set on entering, I would support their decision and be ready to be there for them if they fail miserably. But, like Lisa said, people can surprise you. I may just end up congratulating them instead. One way or the other, people should not be discouraged in their dreams.
  
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Friday's question: If it would help you understand the opposite gender better, would you be willing to switch from being a woman to a man or a man to a woman for a week to gain this knowledge?

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- CC
  
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  No way! I already understand men enough!
  
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- Belles
  
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  Yes! What an opportunity!!
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  Absolutely--that would be an incredible experience!!
  
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- koren56
  
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  Oh yeah!
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  CC, that's so funny!
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  I don't understand men, and I most certainly DON'T want to know every thought that pops into their heads throughout a week, so NO I would not do it. I think it would be interesting until I went back to being a woman. Then, I would remember everything I learned about men, except that I would look back at it from a woman's point-of-view (with a woman's emotions, LOL), and I don't think I would interpret it well w/ my woman's voice. :) No offense to the men in the group. I just think that women and men will never completely understand each other, even if they know what it is like to be someone else...
  
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- Fighting Irish Fan
  
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  Only if it's temporary! :)
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  No, the world would be too dull.
  
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- koren56
  
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  I dont want to know how they think, I'd just like to know how they deal with the equipment!
  
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- CC
  
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  LOL! I bet a lot of us would like to try out the equipment, Koren.
  
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- Gigi G
  
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  ABSOLUTELY, I would LOVE to be a man for a week. Not because I WANT to be a man, but because I would love to feel their freedom for a week, even in this day and age, being a man does come with its priveleges lol. Also, it would be very interesting to see my own sex through the eyes of a male, I think that would be truly enlightening.
  
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Saturday's question: When you know you’re going to have a big, celebratory meal later in the evening, do you change your eating habits throughout the day to prepare for it?

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  Yes, I try to eat a lot less during the day.
  
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- Beverly R.
  
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  Yes--I would eat lighter thru out the day!!
  
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- Belles
  
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  Me too!
  
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- Mrs. K
  
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  Usually.
  
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- koren56
  
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  I try. Dont always succeed.
  
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- Lela N
  
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  No.
  
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- Jacolyn D
  
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  Yes, now that I have been trying to eat healthier and watch my weight. 12lbs lost, 23lbs to go...
  
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Big celebratory meal usually means a celebration lol lol lol and that means dressing up and that means more tailored fitting clothing, so bigger meal or no bigger meal, I am definitely limiting my food intake for the day lol.

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