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  • Mitraa G

    love

    what is your concept of love? What are the special things you want or expect when you are loved by someone? What special qualities you can extend to someone you love? Do you think love is unconditional?
    Mitraa G started this discussion 4 months ago. ( reply )

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  • dancing in the rain

    dancing in the rain 

    i think of love as a fragile thing... not something to break yet not something to get overwhellmed by. Obsession takes over your thoughts when you first come to love.... i think that love IS unconditional... but yet again.. you could trip and fall again for some one else... I think that if some one breaks your heart that it never heals and you never really fall out of love with someone because you still catch yourself thinking about them again :(
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  • abelrising

    abelrising 

    Love is placing the well-being and happiness of someone else above your own. Obsession is not love. Obsession is selfish, because you are more preoccupied with your needs than with those of the object of your desire.
    posted 3 months ago. ( reply )
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    • Doris T

      Doris T 

      I agree. I also believe that love is a choice, a decision to place "the well-being and happiness of someone else above your own."
      posted 3 months ago. ( reply )
    • Xenon

      Xenon 

      That's certainly the way it should be, but no one really lives it out that way, not to mention it being really hard to forget about yourself (therefore fall in love) but really easy to obcess
      posted 2 months ago. ( reply )
    • technophobe

      technophobe 

      Wrong, Xenon! People live that every day - parents! I try to make choices that will benefit my children, even if it's not what I would prefer. It can be as small as making sure they have enough to eat before you do, or as big as fighting for your country so your child can grow up with more freedom than any other country's children. Love is a series of choices, where you think of the person you love before you choose. It can be unconditional or limited. You just have to know how big the person is inside. Are they big enough to love even when they fail, or when you fail them? Or are they too small and only keep their love for the ones who they see as never having failed?
      posted 2 months ago. ( reply )
  • Mitraa G

    Mitraa G 

    love is a journey, not destination...or both?
    posted 3 months ago. ( reply )
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    • Rachel M

      Rachel M 

      Its both Beacause being in love is a milestone in life but its a journey too beacause you explore with the one you love.
      posted 3 months ago. ( reply )
  • Michael L

    Michael L 

    Love is a universal quality and is eternal. We experience it to the extent that we open to its nature. Its nature is givingness.
    posted 3 months ago. ( reply )
  • Pink

    Pink 

    Love, love, love...what is love? I wish I had words to describe it!
    posted 3 months ago. ( reply )
  • charm02

    charm02 

    No words can define love, for they can only be felt through emotions. When you are loved, you feel happiness in every part of you, contentment in you life. If you love someone, give them the best love you can offer, for life comes only once for everyone of us. And yes, love is unconditional. :)
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    • Mitraa G

      Mitraa G 

      Yes, love is a spontaneous deep rooted feeling, not a matter of verbal description. It is like 'blessing' when someone feels love, in love, does love.
      posted 2 months ago. ( reply )
    • charm02

      charm02 

      I may seem to know much words about love and all... but, truth is, I don't know when the feeling is love. I don't know if I'm feeling love or not. :c
      posted 2 months ago. ( reply )
  • Xenon

    Xenon 

    Ahh how does love go? It's a beautiful thing but it is very conditional. You may not be able to completly free yourself no matter what they do, but if your love is no longer who they were, what's the point in pretending? And in some respects it becomes a trap by how attached you allow yourself to get, but the feeling you get with it is so much more, as long as love is being recipricated. Does that make it obcessing ??
    Complicated ].[
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    • Mitraa G

      Mitraa G 

      If somebody does harm, that is not the fault of 'love', that's the fault or unfair action of the person.
      Nobody; nothing can make or force to pretend ! love or life is not a lock where the key is lost or thrown forever!
      For every relation, there is some compatibility, mutual sharing and respect. If it does not hold good for any person, whatever may be the reason; there is no compulsion to continue or pretend to continue! Freedom depends on one's self respect, ability to communicate and negotiate. if anyone is clear, honest and fair enough; she/ he has every right to get out of the mess and go in his/ her way!

      Love is a feeling and love-relation is a mutual interactive practice/ commitment. In any mutual relationship, nobody is 100% at fault and nobody is 100% innocent; even it really be so; then the innocent person can get out of it if he/ she is bold and clear enough.
      Think boldly honey, we are not birds in cage, we are not animals in traps! Accept yourself as more powerful, strong and able than to be trapped. There are good people too who love, share and respect others! Love goes really nice if both are patient and honest to understand and respect each others.

      Yes, I think, in everyday life, it is conditional. There is a condition to understand, accept, appreciate, respect and share the other side; there is a condition to carry out responsibilities, there is a condition to give support in distress, there is a condition to give, contribute and forgive ( about petty and common faults).
      To me, love is a strength; not a weakness.
      posted 2 months ago. ( reply )
  • Gabrielle

    Gabrielle 

    I have no expectations that I can pinpoint, yet at the same time I expect everything from love.
    posted 2 months ago. ( reply )
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    • Heart Ripple

      Heart Ripple 

      i am resently having my first relationship with the most amazing person that i have ever known. but we got into a rough patch a couple of days ago, and i thought that i was going to lose them forever. after awhile we figured some things out and we are now as happy as we were. but now i kind of understand what love is. I really do think that when you fall in love it should be like a drug or something, i mean ,you shouldn't be able to help your self to it when it hits you.
      The feeling of losing the person i was with was the most agonizing kind of pain that has ever gripped every bit of me. Love is a gift that is shared when two people find themselves in someone else when they look into each others eyes. Plain and simple LOVE is AWESOME ; )***
      posted 2 months ago. ( reply )
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