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this boy
Started by miranda p, Wednesday, April 30 2008. Last post Friday, June 27 2008.

so theres this one boy who i think likes me and we text a lot and hang out and HUG each other. but i feel like were just friends but im afraid that he thinks there might be something else going on. well it all started back last saturday and like i went to go see prom night with some of my friends and like i texted him after the movie and he asked me if i wanted to go see a movie with him tomorrow and i said idk. then he asked me if i wanted to make out with him and i said no i only like u as a friend but i think he was kidding but still..... well i did go see a movie but not with him i went to go see baby mama. so on wedneday he asked me if i wanted to go see a movie with him this friday of something but i told him no cuz i was busy but me and a couple of other people wanted to go see prom night so i wantd to go hang out with my friends and i asked him if he wanted to go. he said he would buy my ticket and i told him no thanks but i asked him why he wanted to buy my ticket and he said cuz he has the card thing for the movie but now i'm scared to go cuz im afraid he might try to kiss me. oh and one more thing theres going to be other boys and im afraid that he thinks its a double date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :\
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Hollywood Rachel 101 :) - Wednesday, April 30 2008
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If he wants to make out with you be on HIGH ALERT!!! And he's just a guy, he might have more on his mind than you might think. If you feel that uncofortable don't go out, he bought the tickets to make you feel obligated to go out with him. But if you really want to go take a couple girl friends with you and then you'll feel more comfortable and safe.
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miranda p - Thursday, May 1 2008
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yeah but i think he wa joking and everybody is making a fuss out of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! =[
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Hollywood Rachel 101 :) - Friday, May 2 2008
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Also if you want to keep the friendship don't make it a bf/gf relasionship, because once you're bf/gf your friendship will never be the same.
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crazykid - Sunday, May 4 2008
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Yeah..i agree with rachel...i mean like..if you become a persons bf/gf..then the relationship will never b the same..i mean like....like..the happyness...and the jolyness...and the friendly teasing mood is lost...
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crazykid - Thursday, May 1 2008
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Hey ..If you feel the relationship will be the best if it is friendship..then tell it to him.....If you go on waiting it'll probably make things more worse...You'll have to tell him someday...Better tell him now that you ain't comfortable with him......
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Gabrielle - Friday, May 2 2008
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You need to confront this boy and tell him everything. guys are stupid; they have to be told EVERYTHING. (no offense to any male members of this group.) If you let this sit without being dealt with he will think about this more and more and you will get more and more uncomforrtable and when you finnaly dealed with it would be really really nasty, and you might never talk to eachother again. And also, don't tell him over text, e-mail, or phone. If he's truly your friend then he deserves to be told to his face. And a few days after you tell him, round up a bunch of your girlfriends who want to see a movie and invite him to come along as a sort of peace offering. I may not have ever had to do something like that but many of my friends have had to do this sort of thing and this is the best thing you could do to fix the situation. I would also insist on buying my own ticket to reinforce the idea that its not a date. Do your best to avoid a "date movie' like a romance or something scary. Try for a comedy, maybe something animated. Hope this helps, and good luck to you!!


"I don't like to face problems head on. I think the best way to solve problems is to avoid them. This is a distinct philosophy of mine. No problem can be so complicated that it can't be run away from!"
Linus of the Peanuts in a 1973 strip

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*Gabrielle*
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Hollywood Rachel 101 :) - Saturday, May 3 2008
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Well said Gabrielle. :)
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Saravanan - Saturday, May 3 2008
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Gabrielle, Gabrielle, Gabrielle...
]guys are stupid; they have to be told EVERYTHING.
](no offense to any male members of this group.)

Very funny :-)

The fault is not with the guys. It's with the dames! After all, between us guys, we have never had any issue with clarity of statements. But the adage that "When a woman says no, it means yes; and when she says yes, it means no" is centuries old! But of course, if you want the state of the art take on this opinion, google "Chick Logic" [Hey! I didn't write what's out there :-)].

BTW, Miranda: Guys always have 'it' in the back of their mind (ok, I'm generalizing here)!
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crazykid - Sunday, May 4 2008
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Well saravanan....If the practise of woman saying no(..which means a yeas...and the vice versa..)is centuries old..then is'nt time men understood the message clearly...i mean..there is a guy still running behind me...and i told him a definite no..in many ways..
and he still dose'nt get it...sometimes boys really can't understand things..even if they are as clear as pure water
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Saravanan - Sunday, May 4 2008
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Hi CrazyKid.

I personally know of guys who had steadfastly ploughed through their girl's objections and eventually ended up marrying the object of their desire. In one particular case, the girl has been turning down the guy like for four years before she agreed to marry him!

I am very sure that you should be seeing stuff like this around you as well: Guys ploughing through girls' objections to eventually get their way.

I think the source of the confusion is something to do with the non-linear way in which women think. I culled this from net:

"Women make decisions and take actions based on what they're feeling...then, after the fact, they construct a logic-pattern which fits the way they felt or acted"

On the face of it, you might find the above explanation repulsive. But it is very difficult to disprove it.
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Hollywood Rachel 101 :) - Monday, May 5 2008
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Saravanan you have hit the nail on the head in all your posts. :) Guys always do have 'it' in the back of their mind, and your not wrong in saying that. This is an experienced woman speaking, LOL!
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