In this practical guidebook filled with straight talk, psychologist and best-selling author Dr. Les Parrott shares six secrets that can enhance a couple’s sexual intimacy. Parrott offers crucial facts and practical insights to help men and their wives experience the best sex they’ve ever had.
“"I can't help myself", is the common refrain from men who buy in to this common myth. But that's only true if you reach the point in your sexual excitement scale where you physiologically can't turn back. Truth is, you a significant amount of turnaround time even during full-on sexual excitement with an erect penis. In fact erections are emotionally tenuous. An erection can be stopped very easily when some nonsexual event occurs. For example, a sharp critical comment can make the erection diminish. So can the ringing of a cell phone or the knock on a door. The point is you have far more control over your sexual urges than you think you do -as long as you keep your sexual speedometer in check.(Parrott 176)”
Sex is not only designed to make you happy but to make you holy. That’s right. Sex is as much spiritual as it is physical. Sex can bring you closer to the one who created it.Highlighted by 13 Kindle customers
Your wife sees sex as a sign of emotional bonding and confidence with you. She needs to feel sure of your emotional togetherness before she can free up her physical togetherness. And if she doesn’t feel close and connected with you, your chances for feeling “close and connected” in bed are miniscule.Highlighted by 11 Kindle customers
You must elicit your wife’s desire. Too often, we make the mistake of simply monitoring it. We wait. We observe. We look for signs, a glimmer of an indication that she might be in the mood. That’s not the way to approach it. You need to cultivate it, not monitor it. You need to woo her.Highlighted by 11 Kindle customers
By the standards of today’s “liberated” man, the purpose of sex is personal pleasure—and women, along with pornography or whatever else strikes his fancy—are to be used as a means to achieving it.Highlighted by 10 Kindle customers
women, unlike men, do not separate sex from the emotional aspects of the relationship. Women want a sense of connection that is experienced for more than an hour before approaching the sexual starting line. But they also don’t want anything distracting them from it once their sexual engine is about to be turned on. That’s why they take more care than we do to go through their mental checklist. They need to be sure the kids are in bed, the door is locked, the shades are shut, and so on. They don’t want any loose ends keeping them from focusing on sex once you get started.Highlighted by 9 Kindle customers
An undistracted woman, given time to rev up her sexual engine, will be far more “into it” than a woman who feels pressured and duty-bound to be ready to go at a moment’s notice.Highlighted by 7 Kindle customers
“Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.”Highlighted by 6 Kindle customers
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. Mignon McLaughlinHighlighted by 5 Kindle customers
oxytocin, often referred to as the “bonding hormone.” It spikes right before ovulation, a time when most women are in the mood. And here’s some really good news. According to Daniel G. Amen, MD, a psychiatrist, brain imaging specialist, and author of Sex on the Brain, oxytocin also helps dull your wife’s memory of your annoying traits (like your dirty socks on the floor).2 In other words, this is also when she is likely to feel most attracted to you.Highlighted by 5 Kindle customers
You know “that look” women get when they want sex? Me neither. Steve MartinHighlighted by 5 Kindle customers
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