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“Timothy Keller serves a unique church. His congregation is in the heart of New York City (Manhattan) and nearly 80% of his parishioners are single. New York is filled with young adults who, when they marry and begin to have families, either moves to the suburbs or to other parts of the country....”see full review » see other reviews »
“This is the best book on marriage that I have read. It encompasses everything important in a marriage. HIGHLY recommended for people that are planning on getting married.”Krissy Collins wrote this review 8 days ago. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“This book, more than any other I've read, brilliantly discusses and makes a case for an accurate, healthy view of marriage. It's a must read for married couples and singles alike. Not something I'd normally read, but very good nonetheless. ”Onsi Kamel wrote this review 2 weeks ago. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“This is THE definitive book on marriage.”Bill Ratio wrote this review Sunday, March 10, 2013. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“Really inspiring. ”Keely N wrote this review Saturday, February 23, 2013. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“Very helpful in gaining a better preservative on marriage. ”walkbyfaith wrote this review Wednesday, November 14, 2012. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“Timothy Keller serves a unique church. His congregation is in the heart of New York City (Manhattan) and nearly 80% of his parishioners are single. New York is filled with young adults who, when they marry and begin to have families, either moves to the suburbs or to other parts of the country. Although Keller’s congregation may be unique with such a large number of single men and women, more and more Americans are single. Some have even begun to claim the demise of marriage as an institution. Yet, as Keller also points out, marriage is something both Christians need to understand and to fight for. After all, our relationship to God is described as a marriage (the church is the bride and Christ the bridegroom). God has created us male and female and in a way that we need one another to be whole.
In this book, Keller and his wife makes the case for marriage. But don’t expect them to support the idea of finding a soul mate or the perfect companion as they debunk these modern myths. Although he supports a more traditional view of marriage, he certainly does not endorse the domination of one partner over the other or the mistaken idea that the man is always right. Instead, both parties are called to sacrifice for the other and to support the growth of the other party. He writes: “We need to feel so loved by our partners that when they criticize us, we have the security to admit our faults. Then we can come to face who we are and grow.”
The Kellers respond to the critics of marriage. Drawing from scripture, literature, sociological studies and in some cases their own relationship, they encourage couples to consider the possibilities that marriage holds for their own growth and for the strength of society. Most of the book is written by Tim (and edited by Kathy) with the exception of one chapter (“Embracing the Other”) which was written by Kathy. In addition to talking about the nature of marriage, there is a chapter on “Singleness and Marriage” and a concluding chapter on “Sex and Marriage.” Drawing from Scripture, the Kellers insist on the appropriateness of the marriage covenant for sex, but likewise suggest that “sex is also necessary for the maintenance of the covenant.” They conclude suggesting that sex serves as a “covenant renewal service.”
This book would make a great study for a couple, a small group or for those considering marriage. ”
“Keller's book on marriage is clear, easy to understand, and packed with biblical truth and practical application from start to finish. Keller focuses on the covenant relationship and the high call of God on both the husband and wife before ever diving into the controversial terms of headship and submission. But once one understands the true definition of servant-leadership and the example of Christ, the overbearing, dictatorial images of headship fade into a true meaning of what a godly husband should look like without diminishing the natural differences between man and woman and without minimizing the roles that God gave to each gender.
Keller also spends a huge amount of time talking to singles about the misconceptions of marriage that our culture communicates and how to over come those with a Christ-centered focus both on the beauty of singleness and marriage. This should be mandatory reading for every person who is thinking of entering into a relationship and for those who already are in one. ”
“Really great stuff to glean from. Has helped change my view of marriage and inspired me to be better at putting creativity and intention in to loving my dearest friend and husband better.”Elicia R Zimmerman wrote this review Thursday, May 24, 2012. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“It doesn't get better than this. Great stuff Mr Keller. Check out his podcasts on Itunes for more from this very interesting and poignant mind....”Jill Z wrote this review Sunday, May 20, 2012. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“I think this is a great overview of marriage. I like how Keller is super smart, but super readable. Encouraged on many aspects of my marriage. I particularly benefited from his discussion of how part of our identities are bound up in our marriage vows. We change as people, but our vows keep us anchored. He explained it so well, though it is pretty philosophical. A new thought for me. Good read.”lindyhopkins wrote this review Thursday, May 3, 2012. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No