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“But your first goal is to obey and please the Lord”
WE EASILY SEE WHAT IS DONE TO US BEFORE WE SEE WHAT WE ARE DOING TO OUR MATE.Highlighted by 189 Kindle customers
When he honors her as first in importance and she respects him as first among equals, their marriage works.Highlighted by 178 Kindle customers
Whenever a wife is complaining, criticizing, or crying, she is sending her encoded message: 'I want your love!' And whenever a husband is speaking harshly or sometimes not speaking at all, he is sending his encoded message: 'I want your respect.'Highlighted by 177 Kindle customers
The way to fully love a husband is to respect him in ways that are meaningful to him.Highlighted by 172 Kindle customers
Ephesians 5:33, Paul writes, 'Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband' (NIV).Highlighted by 160 Kindle customers
The key to creating fond feelings of love in a husband toward his wife is through showing him unconditional respect.Highlighted by 141 Kindle customers
'A husband is to obey the command to love even if his wife does not obey this command to respect, and a wife is to obey the command to respect even if the husband does not obey the command to love.'Highlighted by 141 Kindle customers
Something in a man longs for his wife to look up to him as he fulfills this role. And when she does, it motivates him, not because he is arrogant, but because of how God has constructed him.Highlighted by 138 Kindle customers
Unfortunately, a wife's usual approach is to complain and criticize in order to motivate her husband to become more loving.Highlighted by 127 Kindle customers
But Peter is not calling on wives to feel respect; he is commanding them to show respectful behavior. This is not about the husband deserving respect; it is about the wife being willing to treat her husband respectfully without conditions.Highlighted by 93 Kindle customers
Introduction: Love Alone Is Not Enough
Part One: The Crazy Cycle
1 The Simple Secret to a Better Marriage
2 To Communicate, Decipher the Code
3 Why She Won't Respect; Why He Won't Love
4 What Men Fear Most Can Keep the Crazy Cycle Spinning
5 She Fears Being a Doormat; He's Tired of "Just Not Getting It"
6 She Worries about Being a Hypocrite; He Complains, "I Get No Respect"
7 She Thinks She Can't Forgive Him; He Says, "Nobody Can Love That Woman"
Part Two: The Energizing Cycle
8 C-O-U-P-L-E: How to Spell Love to Your Wife
9 Closeness-She Wants You to Be Close
10 Openness-She Wants You to Open Up to Her
11 Understanding-Don't Try to "Fix" Her; Just Listen
12 Peacemaking-She Wants You to Say, "I'm Sorry"
13 Loyalty-She Needs to Know You're Committed
14 Esteem-She Wants You to Honor and Cherish Her
15 C-H-A-I-R-S: How to Spell Respect to Your Husband
16 Conquest-Appreciate His Desire to Work and Achieve
17 Hierarchy-Appreciate His Desire to Protect and Provide
18 Authority-Appreciate His Desire to Serve and to Lead
19 Insight-Appreciate His Desire to Analyze and Counsel
20 Relationship-Appreciate His Desire for Shoulder-to-Shoulder Friendship
21 Sexuality-Appreciate His Desire for Sexual Intimacy
22 The Energizing Cycle Will Work If You Do
Part Three: The Rewarded Cycle
23 The Real Reason to Love and Respect
24 The Truth Can Make You Free, Indeed
Conclusion: Pink and Blue Can Make God's Purple
Appendix A: A Lexicon of Love and Respect: Reminders of What to Say, Do, or Think to Practice Love and Respect in Your Marriage
Appendix B: Personal Love and Respect Inventory for Husbands and Wives
Appendix C: How to Ask Your Mate to Meet Your Needs
Appendix D: What about Exceptions to the Love and Respect Pattern?
Appendix E: What If Your Husband Is a Workaholic?