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“A heartbreaking story of lost love, but told with humor, honesty and dignity. Sheffield managed to make me smile, even laugh, while at the same time making me hurt for his loss. A fabulous book, particularly for those of us who feel a deep connection with music.”see full review » see other reviews »
“Well this book is heartbreaking. Heartbreakingly good. ”Patti G wrote this review Tuesday, November 5, 2013. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“This book is hilarious! I thought it would be sad, but wasn't. I'm loving it and can relate to Rob's style of writing. He speaks in music and lyrics, and that I feel connects us on a spiritual level =) I LOVED this book! Even when I was arguing with him on his timeline (yeah, I talk to my books sometimes haha), I couldn't help but love his conviction on how right he thought he was. This book made me laugh, and smile and send quotes to everyone I know. Even when the book turned sad, it wasn't overpowering, it just was. Rob wrote a great mix of dark humor and self pity, and if you have been there, you know that is exactly what it takes to climb out of the dark and live beyond grief. What more can I say other than everyone who lived, really lived, in the 1990's needs to read "Love is a Mix Tape". I'll be keeping an eye on Rob Sheffield so I can argue music through more books with him. Seriously, I laughed my way through this book and loved strolling down musical memory lane with him. Thanks for a great read Rob!
Quotes that have touched me and made me laugh(I added more quotes!):
I could have written this:
"I get sentimental over the music of the '90s. Deplorable, really. But I love it all. As far as I'm concerned, the 90's was the best time, even the stuff that gave me stomach cramps. Every note from those years is charged with life for me now."
I honestly believe this to be truth:
"Every mix tape tells a story. Put them together, and they add up to the story of a life."
This was the 13 year old Catholic me(something Rob and I seem to have in common) If you knew me in those young teen years, you probably saw something similar written on one of my religion class notebooks along with the lyrics to "Shout at the Devil":
"Take this, all of you, and rock. This is the blood of the new and everlasting covenant. It will be shed for you, and for all who rock, so that rock may be worshiped and glorified."
"Rock, I am not worthy to receive you. But only say the word, and I shall be healed."
Because Go Ask Alice and all the SE Hinton books are like comic book religious text to those I love most (and because cracked up when I read this):
...paperbacks I'd read at school, like Go Ask Alice ("Dear diary, the squirrels are eating my face again") or That Was Then, This Is Now ("The colors screamed at me! Purple screamed loudest!"). At school, we studied Rush's 2112 and Lord of the Rings. In the cafeteria, I looked anxiously at my chocolate milk and recalled how Alice got dosed at the sleepover party. Was somebody playing "button, button, who's got the button" with our lunches? Would my teacher do such a thing? She was into Lord of the Rings. I was just one chocolate-milk mustache away from slipping into a hellhole of bare feet and crash pads and diary entries like "another day, another blowjob" until my inevitable fatal pot overdose.
The best reason ever to be an alter boy:
"But I loved the cassock and surplice, ringing the bells, lighting the candles--it was like being a glam-rock roadie for God.
There is deep truth in this statement:
Everybody's favorite Prince album must be the first one they heard while actually making out.
Can I get an Amen:
....it was just another temporary technological mutation designed to do the same thing music always does, which is allow emotionally warped people to communicate by bombarding each other with pitiful cultural artifacts that in a saner world would be forgotten before they even happened.
...while U2 sound like Jesuits trying to act cool for the youth-group retreat.
Because today's youth has lost this:
(Note: the "record store" was a popular retail strategy in the 1990's, a building where people would "go" to "buy" "music")
just because I felt this one:
But when I listen to Kurt, he's not ready to die, at least not in his music---the boy on Unplugged doesn't sound the same as the man who gave up on him.
more one Kurt Cobain (and enough to kind of hurt):
I hear a teenage Jesus superstar on the radio with a song about a sunbeam, a song about a girl, flushed with the romance of punk rock. I hear the noise in his voice, and I hear a boy trying to scare the darkness away. I wish I could hear what happened next, but nothing did.
On waking up knowing someone is gone forever:
That world was all gone, and now I was a supplicant, dependent on the mercy of other people's psychic hearts.
But all the things you want to learn from grief turn out to be the total opposite of what you actually learn. There are no revelations, no wisdoms as a trade-off for the things you have lost.
It's not human to let go of love, even when it's dead.
how a random song can break you when you least expect it:
This is a classic example of a tape that tries to ruin a bunch of great songs by reminding you of a time you would rather forget.
the scars death leaves us with:
Not changing isn't an option. And even though I've changed in so many ways--I'm a different person with a different life---the past is still with me every minute.
The truth about women then and now (especially in MUSIC!):
Something was happening in the nineties music that isn't happening anywhere in pop culture these days, with women making noise in public was that seem distant now.
What the 1990s really meant (to me at least):
...Hendrix-freak baby boomer, when he was complaining about the "bullet-in-the-head rock and roll" the kids were listening to today, and he asked Renee, "What does rock and roll have today that it didn't have in the sixties?" Renee said, "Tits," which in retrospect strikes me as not a bad one-word off-the-dome answer at all. The nineties fad for indie rock overlapped precisely with the nineties fad for feminism. The idea of a pop culture that was pro-girl, or even just not anti-girl--that was a 1990 mainstream dream, rather than a 1980s or 2000s one, and it was real for a while. Music was not just part of it but leading the way--hard to believe, hard even to remember. But some of us do.
more on the death of the 1990s music culture:
Since the coup of 2000, those nineties dreams have been stomped down so hard it seems crazy to remember that they were real, or at least part of real lives.
Funeral worthy quote:
When we die, we will turn into songs, and we will hear each other and remember each other.
"Love Is Like Oxygen"--you get too much, you get too high, not enough and you're gonna die. Love hurts. Love stinks. Love bites, love bleeds, love is the drug. The troubadours of our time all agree: They wan to know what love it, and they want you to show them. But the answer is simple. Love is a mix tape.
*****I am never going to forget this book and I'm more than likely going to read it many, many times over my life****”
“The true story of a beautiful relationship functioning peripherally as a love letter to The Nineties with a few PS's specifically for Pavement (held to be the greatest band of all time by the author and myself.) I love The Nineties, but after reading this book I felt like I was cheated out of them by not being in love during that decade. Rob Sheffield and his former wife Renee had front row seats to a cultural and musical revolution, after which Renee's time was tragically cut short.”David F wrote this review Monday, October 29, 2012. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“Rob Sheffield's autobiographical collection of stories about love and music is both funny and heartbreaking. We know from the very beginning of Love is a Mix Tape that Rob's wife, Renee, died far too soon but his book is not maudlin, but rather a celebration of their days first as grad students and later as a young married couple in Chartlottesville, Virginia. Rich with references to music, musicians, songwriters, Sheffield's book chronicles the realities of love, marriage and grieving and readers of many ages and experiences can find solace in this lovely book.
Non-fiction. There is some profanity and occasional sexual references. Recommended for high school students.
-Students could create their own mix tapes which relate to a significant experience, year, period of time and write about their choices.
-Sheffield uses a variety of rhetorical writing strategies throughout this book. Students can learn about the various strategies (compare-contrast, description, how-to, definition, classification, etc.), select one of Sheffield's chapters/essays, analyze the essay and its strategies and then write their own personal essay using the same rhetorical strategy.
-Students could research a musical genre or musician Sheffield mentions and create a presentation about it/them using Prezi, iMovie, Animoto, etc.
“In some ways this was a light memoir with quite a bit of music (and memorable tunes linking to memorable times) thrown in, but in others it was a very sad story which was very thought provoking. I read it quite quickly, felt I missed out on quite a lot of the musical references because of my age and location, but as a memoir it was well-written and touching. There was a memorable section discussing Nirvana on 'Unplugged..' and the nature of Kurt's mindset, which was interesting. Sometimes you don't notice a song is a love song if you are expecting (or viewing it as) something else.”Monkey Davies wrote this review Wednesday, August 8, 2012. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“This is a really nice memoir. I cant compare it to other memoirs as I dont think I have read any other but this on its own is touching. I like the fact that the author didn't write it in a very proper sort of structured type of way. He was very relaxed and laid back in the way he told the story which sort of eases the reader into the idea of death and dying-if that is even possible. It is amazing how music can have such an impact in our lives. I can see that in my personal life and it is clear in the authors as well. For anyone who enjoys memoirs,a touching story, and loves music from the 80's and 90's, then this is for you.”Maiya wrote this review Monday, May 28, 2012. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“LOVED, LOVED, LOVED this book!!!”Jacqueline Lee wrote this review Saturday, February 11, 2012. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“Great read if you love music. The premise is a bit sad, but the way it is written there are plenty of light, funny moments that make it a fun read.”KelseyAllen87 wrote this review Wednesday, February 1, 2012. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No