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Liked It “Wow. Powerful reading for any children of divorced parents. It goes into depth about the negative effects of divorce on the children, helps to explain so much for those of us whose parents were divorced. I most highly recommend it, for ANYONE who is a child of divorce or for anyone who is...” see full review » see other reviews » |
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“Wow. Powerful reading for any children of divorced parents. It goes into depth about the negative effects of divorce on the children, helps to explain so much for those of us whose parents were divorced. I most highly recommend it, for ANYONE who is a child of divorce or for anyone who is considering a divorce where children are involved.”
frosty73 wrote this review Sunday, June 14 2009. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“I'm still wondering who didn't expect a negative legacy? We all knew and played willfully ignorant because we're selfish and weak-willed. ”
C. R. Wiley wrote this review Tuesday, June 2 2009. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“After 30 years of performing custody evaluations, I can tell you that this is an absolute must read for any parent who is doubting that their divorce has both a long term and negative impact upon their children, especially high-conflict divorce.
Hal M wrote this review Tuesday, April 28 2009. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
It is well-researched and realistic.
I believe that it might even be a greater read for children -- now adults -- who have had the divorce experience thrust upon them.”
“Seemed impartial and well researched. The stories were written in a comfortable, novel-like way, and the morals and advice to be imparted were conversational and friendly. Not preachy or overly biased.”
Allison wrote this review Sunday, April 19 2009. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“Personal accounts backed by extensive research make this a must-read for (adult) children of divorce. It's surprising how many universal situations apply to such an individual experience. The book contains excellent insight.”
Tara L wrote this review Thursday, May 29 2008. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
“This book was packed full of awesome information. And when I say packed...I mean packed, the book barely had margins.
Ann D wrote this review Sunday, January 6 2008. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
The basic premise is that children of divorce often have latent and unforeseen problems in interpersonal relationships due to their parent's divorce. A recurring theme is that children whose parents who are providing them a good, supportive and nurturing home might be better off if their parents remained unhappily married vs. getting a divorce and throwing their world into an uproar.
The book's over-all tone is that of hopelessness. Wallerstein ends with the story of a girl whose parents were divorced, remained conflict-free and put their daughter's best interest at heart. The girl still had significant relationship difficulties in her adulthood. You are left feeling as though people are destined to remain in unhappy relationships or cause their children great harm in their search for healing.
Overall, a must read for: any child of divorce, person who is close to a child of divorce, parents who have divorced, parents thinking about divorcing or person who works with divorced people and children of divorce. The book debunks the myths of divorce and has great recommendations on how to make sure the children's needs are put at the forefront of everyone's minds during and after a divorce.
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“While there are flaws to this book, it is an eye-opening longitudinal study. Wallerstein does indicate that there are instances in which divorce is warranted and makes it very clear that she is not against divorce, per se; however, she shows that the effects on children of divorce are far more long-reaching than previously suspected or discussed, primarily due to of the way parents behave before, during, and after the divorce. The advice here is that when divorce occurs, the needs and welfare of the children should be the foremost consideration in the proceedings rather than the needs/wants of the adults or the equitable distributuon of the marital assests. Perhaps most profound is that notion that custody and visitation agreements and arrangements should be re-evaluated every few years. ”
J-M wrote this review Tuesday, February 27 2007. ( reply | permalink ) Was this review helpful? Yes | No
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