We all have an imaginary definition of a great family. We imagine what it would be like to belong to such a family. No fights over the holidays. No getting on one another’s nerves. Respect for individual identity. Mutual support, without being intrusive. So many people believe they are... read more
“Spend time with the person in my family I love the most, and I will learn again to love my family.”Po Bronson
So much of our disappointment and frustration with family is a function of our expectation.Highlighted by 8 Kindle customers
Love that has been tested is far more awe inspiring than love that has never known anything but bliss. Don't look for a partner with whom you have no problems, but one you are good at overcoming problems with.Highlighted by 7 Kindle customers
If your needs aren't met, you can't give in return, and the well runs dry.Highlighted by 6 Kindle customers
In real life, though, we are meant to search. The secret to unlocking life's treasure is not handed to us. We have to look high and low for it. We have to endure, we have to experience, and we have to contemplate.Highlighted by 5 Kindle customers
If you consider it fragile, you're wary of rocking the boat by expressing your needs, so those needs go unmet, which is far more dangerous in the long term.Highlighted by 5 Kindle customers
She had never recognized that making choices—and being okay with the fact that this means there are other choices you will never get to taste and experience—was essential to being at peace in the world.Highlighted by 4 Kindle customers
Forgiving your enemies is the easy part. The hard work is in forgiving those you trusted to care for you, those precious few you believed would keep your interests in mind, the one person you thought would never do that to you. Forgiving those you love is not something you do once, like a ceremony. It's required of you, in some form, every single day.Highlighted by 4 Kindle customers
It's said that there are four basic fears inherent to the nature of exis-tence—you can have some of these fears no matter how well you might have been raised. They are the Fear of Dying, the Fear of Having to Choose, the Fear of Ending Up Alone, and the Fear That the World Is Intrinsically Meaningless.Highlighted by 4 Kindle customers
But when we come to expect the ideal, and we assume the ideal is prevalent, we're quickly let down by our reality. We feel cheated and resentful—and often give up—when our experience is actually fairly representative.Highlighted by 4 Kindle customers
Doug understood that people make mistakes, and he trusted that his son was developing good judgment and using it most of the time. He needed to learn for himself what crossing that line felt like, and how the anxiety of being over the line wasn't worth it.Highlighted by 3 Kindle customers
Introduction: The Promise
The Cook's Story
The Trial
Bumpkin
The White Guy
Dorothy's Child
The Tree
Boxes
The Palace
Halftime
Jamaica?
A Cautionary Tale
The Orchid King
The Butcher's Wife
Silent Car Rides
Home Front
The Unexplained
Some Thoughts
The Tornado
Epilogue: Blue Blankets
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