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New! Revised/2010 updated Edition (contains valuable new insights, resource info and first-person accounts from parents who have struggled and won!) Real-life solutions to help you now! Watching a loved one immersed in an intense battle with alcohol and drug abuse may be the most... read more
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- Alcoholics Anonymous: Alcoholics Anonymous® is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism.
- Al Anon: Friends and families of problem drinkers find understanding and support at Al-Anon meetings.
- Al-Anon/Alateen: Al-Anon/Alateen, known as Al-Anon Family Groups, is an international "fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope in order to solve their common problems."
- Changing Lives Foundation: Drug addiction help now, solutions and phone counseling for families, friends and those in Al-Anon who need help now.
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Why Don't They Just Quit?
What families and friends need to know about addiction and recovery.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Foreword
Introduction
Part 1: Why Don't They JUST QUIT?
Chapter 1
A Look at My Life 3
Why write this book?
Chapter 2
Dying for a Cold One 7
Why do we all take drugs?
Chapter 3
Good Question! 11
Why don't they just quit?
Chapter 4
Pick Your Poison 15
Why do people have "drugs of choice"?
Chapter 5
Houston, We Have A Problem! 23
How do you know when "use" has turned to "abuse"?
Chapter 6
Pryor on Fire: Technology Meets Dope 29
How has technology changed the world of drugs?
Chapter 7
Moving On 33
Making peace with the past.
Chapter 8
The Devil Made Me Do It 37
Is he an addict with a crime problem or a criminal with an addiction problem?
Part 1 Overview: Key Points to Remember
Part 2: It's A Family Affair
Chapter 9
None of Your Business 49
Should you intervene or not?
Chapter 10
Siblings: The Forgotten Ones 59
How do siblings get hurt?
Chapter 11
What's Going On? 65
Is addiction a disease or a moral failing?
Chapter 12
I Drink Alone 71
Why is isolation a bad sign?
Chapter 13
Raising Kids in the Twenty-first Century 75
What did I do wrong?
Chapter 14
What's Love Got to Do with It? 79
What works, what doesn't, and why.
Part 2 Overview: Key Points to Remember
Part 3: All About Treatment
Chapter 15
Different Strokes for Different Folks 89
Does treatment have to cost a lot?
Chapter 16
One Step at a Time? 99
Are twelve-step meetings really important?
Chapter 17
Pivotal Teaching Moments 105
The "rock bottom" myth.
Chapter 18
Meth Myths 113
Can meth addicts really recover?
Chapter 19
Payback Time 121
What is withdrawal like?
Chapter 20
Getting the Treatment 127
What do people do all day in treatment?
Chapter 21
Drugs: The GiftThat Keeps on Giving 135
What should I know about hep-C?
Chapter 22
Least Likely to Succeed 141
What are alternative treatments for recovery, and do they work?
Part 3 Overview: Key Points to Remember
Part 4: Life in Recovery
Chapter 23
A Whole New World 149
What exactly is recovery?
Chapter 24
Whole Person Recovery: The Mind 155
Can the mind be healed?
Chapter 25
Whole Person Recovery: The Body 161
What roles do nutrition and exercise play in recovery?
Chapter 26
Whole Person Recovery: The Spirit 167
Do we have to talk about religion?
Chapter 27
Pill for Pill 173
Is it okay to take medications in recovery?
Chapter 28
Serotonin Rising 179
How should you deal with depression in recovery?
Chapter 29
Relapse: Plan on It 183
What to do if your loved one relapses?
Chapter 30
Step One: Don't Leave Home Without It! 193
What's the big deal about Step One?
Chapter 31
They're BAAaaack! 197
What should you do when he comes back from treatment?
Part 4 Overview: Key Points to Remember
Conclusion
Part 5: Q & A with Joe
HOW CAN I TELL? 211
• How can I tell if someone is an addict/alcoholic or just a heavy user?
• How can I know if my addicted friend or loved one is telling me the truth?
• Are passing out and blacking out the same thing?
• If someone can stop using for weeks at a time, they "aren't" an addict-correct?
DOES IT HAVE TO BE? 215
• Does an intervention have to be a surprise attack?
• If both parents are addicts, does that increase the child's chances of addiction?
WHAT IS IT? 219
• What does the term "pink cloud" mean?
• Isn't addiction just a willpower problem?
• Does relapse mean failure?
• What is Methadone? What is harm reduction?
• What is meant by a co-occurring disorder?
IS IT OKAY? 225
• Is it okay for a recovering addict to smoke pot?
• Is it okay for my teen to drink at home under my supervision?
• Can I have alcohol in my home, or serve alcoholic drinks on social occasions?
• Is it okay to tell your kids about your past use? How open should you be?
SHOULD I? 233
• Should I be concerned about medications in my own bathroom?
I'M WONDERING 235
• Does everyone have to know?
• Is there a cure for addiction?
• Are some people beyond hope for recovery?
• Why is addiction called an "insidious" disease?
• What about babies born to addicted moms?
• How does one respond to being offered a drink after beginning life in recovery?
HOW CAN THEY? 241
• How can a mother or father leave their kids because of alcohol or drug use?
• Don't they love their kids?
IS IT TRUE? 243
• Are most addicts in jail, homeless, or unemployed?
• Does using drugs and alcohol change a person's brain chemistry?
• Does heavy use of alcohol and drugs create addiction?
• Is it true that the more educated a person is, the less likely they are to become an addict?
• Is it true that the chances for addiction are greater, the earlier use starts?
CAN IT HAPPEN? 249
• Can someone develop a dependency problem later in life?
• Can a person just cut down on their drinking?
DO YOU HAVE TO 253
• Do you have to believe in God to attend AA meetings?
• Do you have to stop seeing all your old friends in order to recover?
APPENDIX A: Real Stories, Real PeopleLife 257
APPENDIX B: Self-Test 271
APPENDIX C: Resources 277
APPENDIX D: Glossary 285
Authors & Contributors edit
- Joe Herzanek (Author)
Other Contributors:
- Judy Herzanek (Foreword)
- Karen Steenekamp (Artist) - Cover Design/Open Design
- David Hicks (Editor)
Awards edit
- Next Generation Indie Book Award (2008: Best Self Help Book)
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