Love and War (2009) (edit title/settings)

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• John Eldredge: THe husband of Stasi Eldredge and co-author of this book.
• Cherie: Add a description of this character.
• Lori
• Craig
• Stasi Eldredge: John's Wife
• David
• Meg

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• “What I have learned (the hard way) is first of all not to judge motives.”

  Stasi Eldredge

• “God gave you your spouse to help smooth your rough edges.”

• “To be unloving is to fail at the very thing we were created for.”

  John Eldredge

• “A happy marriage is the union of two forgivers.”

  Ruth Bell Graham

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• A man aches for affirmation, for validation, to know that he has come through. This also explains his deepest fear—failure.

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• He lures us into marriage and then he uses it to transform us.

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• Without you, your spouse will not become the man or the woman that God intends him or her to be and the Kingdom of God will not advance as it is meant to advance. Your spouse plays the most vital role in your life. You play the most critical role in your spouse’s life. No one will have a greater impact on your spouse’s soul than you. No one has greater access to your spouse’s heart than you. This is an enormous honor.

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• And what does learning to love look like? Well, for one thing, it looks like compassion for your spouse’s brokenness while choosing to turn from your own self-protective style of relating.

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• For it is also in the heart of a man and a woman to share some sort of quest, to fight some great battle together.

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• Now consider this—marriage is the sanctuary of the heart. You have been entrusted with the heart of another human being. Whatever else your life’s great mission will entail, loving and defending this heart next to you is part of your great quest.

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• There’s all sorts of joy to be found in your marriage, once you stop looking to your spouse to make you happy.

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• Every woman now has an insatiable need for relationship, one that can never be filled. It is an ache in her soul designed to drive her to God. Men instinctively know that the bottomless well is there, and pull back. I don’t want to be engulfed by that. Besides, no matter how much I offer, it’ll never be enough. This is Eve’s sorrow. This is the break in her cup. She aches for intimacy, to be known, loved, and chosen. And it also explains her deepest fear—abandonment.

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• “God, open my eyes to your love. Give me a revelation of your love for me. I’ve lost it. I’ve lost sight of it. Lord, draw my heart back to you. Open my eyes so that I can see how you are wooing me.”

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• I’ll wager that 90 percent of the confusion, misunderstanding, struggle, and disappointment in marriage is due to the fact that we do not understand what God is up to.

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• Colorado: Where the authors live during the writing of this book.
• Palm Springs: This where they have a vacation.
• Sea of Cortez: Where the authors celebrates John's parents' fiftieth anniversary.
• Santa Fe: Where Craig and Lori stopped for lunch and more.

Organizations edit see section history

• Ransomed Hearts Ministries: The ministry that John and Stasi have been called to do.

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Authors & Contributors edit see section history

1. John Eldredge (Author)
2. Stasi Eldredge (Author)

Other Contributors:

1. Joel Strayer (Photographer) - Author Photographer
2. W. G. Cookman (Designer) - Jacket Designer.

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Classification edit see section history

• Library of Congress: BV835.E38 2009
• Dewey: 248.844

Subjects edit see section history

• Books › Religion & Spirituality › Christianity › Christian Living › Relationships › Marriage

Links to Supplemental Material edit see section history

• Ransomed Hearts Ministries: This is the ministry they started because of their pursuit for the marriage of ages.

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