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Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love is a many splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But more often than not, the giver and the... read more
Ridiculously Simplified Synopsis edit
- - Residents of Mars and Venus learn how to communicate.
- - Psycho-babble breaking down the individual's neuroses in relationships
- - Learn to speak the right love language and be heard.
Summary edit
Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and... read more
People edit
- Mark: Married to Mary for 2 years
- Betty Jo: Married to Bill 12 years
- Dr. Chapman: Marriage counselor and author of the book
- Mary: Married to Mark for 2 years
- Abhi: This book was recommended by a friend so I read it. However i did not think too much of the book
- Ann: Sought marriage counseling by herself when she felt hopeless about her marriage to Glenn
- Pete: Married to Patsy; hosted Dr. Chapman in their West Palm Beach, Florida home
- Glenn: Married to Ann; refused to seek marriage counseling.
- Patsy: Married to Pete; hosted Dr. Chapman in their West Palm Beach, Florida home
- Allison: Frustrated with her husband Keith
- Mary Catherine: Awesome book for any couple!
- Don: Married to Jan, who felt he loved softball more than her
- David Gallespie: Add a description of this character.
- Luke
- Fred
- John
- Ashley
- Marcus
- Becky
- Jeff
- Alicia
- Patrick
- Karolyn
- Susan
- Dan
- Emily
- Michelle
- Janice
- Doug
- Brent
- Bill
- Robin
- Kate
- Keith
- Jan
Quotes edit
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“Poor choices in the past don't mean that we must make them in the future. Instead we can say, "I'm sorry. I know I have hurt you, but I would like to make the future different. I would like to love you in your language. I would like to meet your needs."”
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“The desire for romantic love in marriage is deeply rooted in our psychological makeup. Books abound on the subject. Television and radio talk shows deal with it. The Internet is so full of advice. So are our parents and friends. Keeping love alive in our marriages is serious business.”
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Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving.
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Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.
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People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.
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I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday. They insist on bringing into today the failures of yesterday and in so doing, they pollute a potentially wonderful day.
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The best thing we can do with the failures of the past is to let them be history.
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Love is the attitude that says, “I am married to you, and I choose to look out for your interests.”
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The essential ingredients in a quality activity are: (1) at least one of you wants to do it, (2) the other is willing to do it, and (3) both of you know why you are doing it—to express love by being together.
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Love makes requests, not demands. When I demand things from my spouse, I become a parent and she the child.
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“Inside every child is an ‘emotional tank’ waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty ‘love tank.’”
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Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.
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First Sentence edit
At 30,000 feet, somewhere between Buffalo and Dallas, he put his magazine in his seat pocket, turned in my direction, and asked, "What kind of work do you do?"
Table of Contents edit
Acknowledgments
1. What Happens to Love After the Wedding?
2. Keeping the Love Tank Full
3. Falling in Love
4. Love Language #1: Words of Affirmation
5. Love Language #2: Quality Time
6. Love Language #3: Receiving Gifts
7. Love Language #4: Acts of Service
8. Love Language #5: Physical Touch
9. Discovering YOUR Primary Love Language
10. Love Is a Choice
11. Love Makes the Difference
12. Loving the Unlovely
13. Children and Love Languages
14. A Personal Word
Study Guide
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Series & Lists edit
This is book 4 of 10 in New York Times Bestsellers - Paperback Advice (Current). (authoritative list)
This book is in Love Languages. (community list)
Authors & Contributors edit
- Gary Chapman (Author)
First Edition edit
Original Language: English
Publisher: Moody Pr
Country: Add the country of publication.
Publication Date: 1992
ISBN: N/A
Page Count: 204
Publisher: Moody Pr
Country: Add the country of publication.
Publication Date: 1992
ISBN: N/A
Page Count: 204
Classification edit
- Library of Congress: HQ734 .C466 1992
- Dewey: 646.78
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- Five Love Languages: Official Site.
- Gary Chapman: Author's official website.
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